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One Mom's Facebook Takeover: Fair Punishment or Going Too Far?

One Mom's Facebook Takeover: Fair Punishment or Going Too Far?

When you’re a 13-year-old girl just about everything your parents do can be considered embarrassing. One 13-year-old girl however may have cause for complaint after her mom took to her Facebook in an effort to use public humiliation as a form of punishment.

Today Moms reports about Denise Abbott’s creative punishment for daughter Ava by superimposing an X over Ava’s Facebook profile picture with the caption, “I do not know how to keep my... I am not longer allowed on Facebook or my phone. Please ask why, my mom says I have to answer everyone that asks.” Ava was then told she would have to write a separate explanation (no copy and pasting) for every Facebook friend that asked about why she was being punished.

Abbott explains that her daughter was being punished in this way because Ava acted out toward her in front of her friends. Though Abbott did not expect her punishment story to go viral she explains why she decided taking over her daughter’s Facebook like she did was the appropriate punishment in this case. Abbott says, “I was trying to think of something that would impact her so she would know what it felt like to be embarrassed in front of people. I think you need to have empathy to understand the situation.”

Abbott has received both support and criticism for her parental actions toward Ava. Parenting expert, Dr. Janet Taylor, explains (in the vain of “two wrongs don’t make a right”) why she feels Abbott’s punishment is the wrong way to go. Dr. Taylor says, “Just like we don’t want our kids to embarrass other kids, as parents we don’t want to embarrass our children.”

What do you think of the way Denise Abbott decided to teach her daughter a lesson?

Do you think Abbott punished her daughter fairly or did she go too far?
 

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  • BeautySmitten By BeautySmitten
    07.21.12  

    What is so harsh about a little embarrassment? It's much better than actually abusing the child and will probably leave a lasting impression. I'm so sick parents being afraid to discipline their children. I can't stand to see disrespectful children, like those who bullied the bus monitor. When you get a slap on the wrist or no punishment at all for your misbehavior how are you going to learn not to do it again. It's a facebook page, not a tattoo on her forehead. It will not ruin her life.

  • LMC5209 By LMC5209
    07.21.12  

    I understand her reasoning, but I don't feel public humiliation is a proper way to discipline.

  • sjbraun By sjbraun
    07.21.12  

    Just a note to the author - near the end, you want to change" (in the vain of ?two wrongs don?t make a right?)" vain to vein :)

  • lexusgirl38 By lexusgirl38
    07.21.12  

    vain/vān: Having or showing an excessively high opinion of one's appearance, abilities, or worth. vein:a. Anatomy Any of the membranous tubes that form a branching system and carry blood to the heart. b. A blood vessel. Really

  • Phall24 By Phall24
    07.21.12  

    I understand, and actually don't feel she went too far. I think young people today lack respect and basic manners when it comes to their parents, grandparents, teachers, adults, etc. I see it on a daily basis and am appalled by their behavior. More parents should follow suit and be intolerant of disrespect. Sometimes a message needs to be sent. Maybe it'll even get this daughter's friends thinking twice before they disrespect their mothers.

  • Idagal By Idagal
    07.21.12  

    Hooray for Mom! I've seen my granddaughter and her friends' FB pages. Some of the things they post are crude, revealing, and they should be humiliated at themselves. I don't think that Mom's punishment will leave this child scarred for life, and I hope the kid learns something from it. Parents today need to take drastic and/or creative measures to teach their children.

  • askomsky By askomsky
    07.21.12  

    I support her decision, I agree that kids these days don't have enough accountability. It's better for her to learn the lesson now then 5 years from now when it could be more severe. If they want to try and "act" older then they should be able to handle their punishment. She'll definitely think twice before she does something like that again.

  • singlemommyof2 By singlemommyof2
    07.21.12  

    It's her kid, nothing wrong with it. My son is 12, at that age kids don't seem to listen or care if punished. But they care when it involves their friends or social life. I bet her daughter learned from it.

  • alwaysblabbing By alwaysblabbing
    07.22.12  

    I don't think she went too far. She did nothing illegal or wrong. This is her child and we dont know the entire story.

  • bound4aruba By bound4aruba
    07.22.12  

    If more parants would stop giving into the "what will the Jones' say..." way of parenting today that I see on a daily baisis less reasons for parants to have to go to this extreme would occur. I applaude the mother for stepping up. Hoefully more parents will take charge so that we will have a more respectful generation than i see currently.

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