Early Twenties Too Young To Say 'I Do'?

   By drodriguez  Sep 30, 2011

A recent SheSpeaks poll reveals that almost 60% of our members think that between the ages of 25 and 29 is the perfect time for nuptials. Only about 11% feel 18 to 24 year olds should be planning a wedding and there may be a good reason for this.

Though there is no magic number for when you should tie the knot, research does show that your marriage has a better chance of surviving if you wait to make that commitment until you are in your mid-twenties or later. The fact that many women have already been through college by the time they turn 25 could have something to do with marriage success.

A Cosmopolitan magazine report points out some research that reveals women with more education usually have more lasting relationships than women who have received less schooling. Terri Orbuch, PhD, author of Five Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great, reveals why women who already have college degrees fare better in marriages. Orbuch says, “Educated women tend to be more confident about who they are and less willing to settle for a man who doesn’t meet their standards”

Just the fact that we are a little older and wiser once we reach our mid-twenties probably has a lot to do with a lasting marriage too. By the time most women reach 25 they know who they are and have enough dating experience to know who would make the best long term partner.

What age do you think is the right time to get married?

Why do you think people who marry at 25 or older have a better chance of staying together?


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sharman421 by sharman421 | TALLAHASSEE, FL
Jan 05, 2012

Totally agree! Women need to wait. A lot of maturing goes on between the ages of 23 and 30! and for men it takes even longer usually!

wenzel2 by wenzel2 | winnsboro, SC
Oct 19, 2011

My husband and I got married when I was 20 and he was 22. We've been together 7 years now and still going strong! However, I think that most young adults these days who are 18-24 are not ready to get married and that they are not mature enough to handle a marriage and everything that a healthy marriage entails. Seems like it takes longer for kids to mature in this day and age. :o)

cristimarashi by cristimarashi | LITTLE ELM, TX
Oct 17, 2011

My husband and I got married at 24/25. We started dating when we were 19/20. I think closer to the mid twenties is probably ideal for marriage, but each couple is different. I know tons of people that got married in their early 20's that are still married and very happy. I think it depends on the unique situations of each couple.

CherishMePlease by CherishMePlease | Kansas City, MO
Oct 16, 2011

The best advice I've received so far: Do not mention divorce, or even contemplate it. Divorce should not be a part of your vocabulary after you say "I do." It doesn't matter who you are, a marriage will not last if you throw out the D-word every time you have a fight. But it also helps if you and your spouse have the same values/morals. My husband and I were together only a year and a half before we tied the knot. We knew we wanted to be with each other forever because we have the same morals. It just makes for an easier partnership when both of you are on the same page on most subjects.

shayaddison by shayaddison | CLINTON, IN
Oct 13, 2011

I think it depends less on the age and more on the commitment levels & maturity of the individual people. Some people are just ready for marriage earlier while others need more time. I do think that if you spend lots of time "finding yourself" and becoming more independent that it then sometimes might be harder to mesh your personality & the way you do things with someone else when you do get married. But there are pros & cons to both sides.

Yashersgirl by Yashersgirl | Dublin, OH
Oct 12, 2011

absolutely!!!! Your 20's is just when you are coming full circle in to your beginning adult life. You are figuring out who you are and may I add men aren't very mature at that age either. You are young, do not be in a rush because even though I am extremely happy with my life, sometimes I miss those early 20's. I chose and was prepared and planned for every situation I am in currently it is a lot of responsiblity but I am also out of my 20's, did I live it up in my 20's ABSOLUTELY!!! Don't be in a rush girls!

Bryelee by Bryelee | Dover, DE
Oct 12, 2011

I think you should ignore what other people say and get married at whatever age you are ready. I got married at 23 because I waited to have a wedding. Looking back I should have just eloped because the bigger house would have been the smarter choice.

bhall1331 by bhall1331 | Falling Waters, WV
Oct 10, 2011

I think this very much depends on the maturity level of both parties. Alot of my friends and family married early, some are going through marriage counseling, some are divorced, and some are working out great with a beautiful family allready! I think that marriage can work in early twenties as long as both parties are willing to be un-selfish, and make the relationship work. We all know that sometimes marriage is not easy.

danief by danief | brunswick, OH
Oct 10, 2011

I'm in my late twenties, and single. I think it depends on the people if they are mature and ready to get married young. I have friends who are the same age, who got married young and some of them are still together, and some of them are already divorced by the time they were 24. I'm ready to get married now, can't say I would have been in the same place I am now 5 years ago.

mallia921 by mallia921 | Fort Lee, VA
Oct 08, 2011

Well, in my expierence. I got married at 18. My husband was also 18. It also might be different because we were both in the army at that time. I've noticed that alot of military couples marry younger then the civilian world. We are bout to celebrate our 4 year anv. And we are still going strong. Marriage is union with someone you love. I dont think there is any age limit or a perfect age for it.

dmcelwain by dmcelwain | Lexington, SC
Oct 07, 2011

My husband and I got married when I was 21 and he was 24 and we are still happily married. We've had our share of hard time, but I don't think that has anything to do with how young we got married. Any marriage is going to take work to make it successful.

bamafreak by bamafreak | Arab , AL
Oct 06, 2011

I do not believe that marraige is too early for people in their early 20's. I was 19 when I got married and we have an awesome marraige. It has absolutely been the best 6 years of my life. If the person is ready to be married then age should not matter.

B0402116 by B0402116 | KATY, TX
Oct 05, 2011

I married when I was 22 and divorced when I was 27-with two very small children. I am SO happy I have my children, however, in hindsight, I would wait until I had graduated from college and had my career established before choosing a marriage partner. I encourage my children to do what they feel is best for them and they have both decided to wait for marriage until then.

REDsmom by REDsmom | La Marque, TX
Oct 05, 2011

I was 19 and my husband 20 when we got married 41 years ago. I feel it is a personal matter between two people. We now have three grown children and six grands. I agree that waiting gives the couple a chance to be more financially secure. It just depends on how dedicated you are to each other.

sassysandy1969 by sassysandy1969 | wheelersburg, OH
Oct 05, 2011

i think its to young you need to get a good education and have a good job and be financaly sercure then think about marriage