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Early Twenties Too Young To Say 'I Do'?

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Early Twenties Too Young To Say 'I Do'?
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A recent SheSpeaks poll reveals that almost 60% of our members think that between the ages of 25 and 29 is the perfect time for nuptials. Only about 11% feel 18 to 24 year olds should be planning a wedding and there may be a good reason for this.

Though there is no magic number for when you should tie the knot, research does show that your marriage has a better chance of surviving if you wait to make that commitment until you are in your mid-twenties or later. The fact that many women have already been through college by the time they turn 25 could have something to do with marriage success.

A Cosmopolitan magazine report points out some research that reveals women with more education usually have more lasting relationships than women who have received less schooling. Terri Orbuch, PhD, author of Five Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great, reveals why women who already have college degrees fare better in marriages. Orbuch says, “Educated women tend to be more confident about who they are and less willing to settle for a man who doesn’t meet their standards”

Just the fact that we are a little older and wiser once we reach our mid-twenties probably has a lot to do with a lasting marriage too. By the time most women reach 25 they know who they are and have enough dating experience to know who would make the best long term partner.

What age do you think is the right time to get married?

Why do you think people who marry at 25 or older have a better chance of staying together?


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  • Bearyunique By Bearyunique

    In today's way of life, I think it is best to wait until your 25 or older. After you finish college or you begin your working career you more stable to be able to make the commitment last. I think when you build your confidence up, you are more secure about who you are and with whom you want to share the rest of your life. When your married it lessons your possibilities for certain dreams someone may have, like studing abroad. However, Anything is possible if you put all your heart and soul into it.

  • Chandamay21 By Chandamay21

    Being married at 20 and now divorced and remarried at 26 I have to say I do know a lot more about what I want and who I am then what I did at 20. I think that you can't really put a age on it because it is more about who you are. It's also about changing and growing together and what value you hold your relationship at. Today it is so simple just to say you give up and you want something new and anyone can do this at any age. Whatever age you get married the chances of it lasting depends on yourself and the other person not based on how old you are.

  • tmwiddows By tmwiddows

    He or she has to be "the one". I married in my early 20's, now have two children and have just recently celebrated my 12th anniversary. I don't believe age plays a factor. I believe it is in your and your partners beliefs. My hubby and I both believe marriage is until "death do us part". I think that is the problem today, divorce seems to be the easiest option. Well guess what...marriage is hard and you don't always see eye to eye. You grow together, you learn together, you share life experiences together. A spouse is a partner who is always there for you, sometimes whether you want them to be or not! And really in the end who the heck wants to re-train one after all those years!!! lol

  • sassysandy1969 By sassysandy1969

    i think its to young you need to get a good education and have a good job and be financaly sercure then think about marriage

  • REDsmom By REDsmom

    I was 19 and my husband 20 when we got married 41 years ago. I feel it is a personal matter between two people. We now have three grown children and six grands. I agree that waiting gives the couple a chance to be more financially secure. It just depends on how dedicated you are to each other.

  • B0402116 By B0402116

    I married when I was 22 and divorced when I was 27-with two very small children. I am SO happy I have my children, however, in hindsight, I would wait until I had graduated from college and had my career established before choosing a marriage partner. I encourage my children to do what they feel is best for them and they have both decided to wait for marriage until then.

  • bamafreak By bamafreak

    I do not believe that marraige is too early for people in their early 20's. I was 19 when I got married and we have an awesome marraige. It has absolutely been the best 6 years of my life. If the person is ready to be married then age should not matter.

  • dmcelwain By dmcelwain

    My husband and I got married when I was 21 and he was 24 and we are still happily married. We've had our share of hard time, but I don't think that has anything to do with how young we got married. Any marriage is going to take work to make it successful.

  • mallia921 By mallia921

    Well, in my expierence. I got married at 18. My husband was also 18. It also might be different because we were both in the army at that time. I've noticed that alot of military couples marry younger then the civilian world. We are bout to celebrate our 4 year anv. And we are still going strong. Marriage is union with someone you love. I dont think there is any age limit or a perfect age for it.

  • danief By danief

    I'm in my late twenties, and single. I think it depends on the people if they are mature and ready to get married young. I have friends who are the same age, who got married young and some of them are still together, and some of them are already divorced by the time they were 24. I'm ready to get married now, can't say I would have been in the same place I am now 5 years ago.

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