Teen victims of bullies usually don’t see justice for the crimes perpetrated against them. And if they do, the typical punishment may be something like detention or probation if it goes through the court system. One teen who suffers from a form of autism known as Asperger’s however, thought of a very fitting and hopefully helpful punishment for the bullies who mercilessly beat him up.
Illinois teen Gavin Stone’s story has gone viral since his mother shared it on Facebook. Cortnie Stone shared the story to send a message that not all disabilities are easily seen, those who suffer from Asperger’s often appear different from their peers and are bullied because of these differences.
According to Stone her son was singled out because of of his Asperger-related behaviors that may appear odd to some kids. She writes, “On Thursday night, some kids were talking about how "it's weird" that he is always by himself, attending events alone and watching people, and it was "creepy" how he wanted to be friends with people he didn't know. On Friday night, another kid that overheard that conversation decided to take matters into his own hands and become judge and jury, and this is the result of that.”
The “result of that” was Gavin being ambushed by a group of teens who choked and punched him until he suffered a bruised esophagus, nose fracture, mild concussion and hematoma to the eye.
But after all of the violence and damage was done Gavin chose not to do what most of us would probably have done - see that these children receive some degree of punishment from a judge. Instead, Gavin did something that showed a sophistication and grace that is hard to find in any age group. The recent high school graduate made the decision not to press charges against his bullies but instead is requesting that they do community service working with disabled people, write a paper on Asperger’s and view a 20 minute video with their families that he created. Gavin’s moms explains the punishment, “He did not press charges, but requested their community service be disability related, that they write a paper on Asperger's, and that they watch a 20 min video statement he taped while their families were present so they could see the damage they did and hear the event from his perspective. I am so proud of him, and I hope a lesson will come of this to all that hear about it.”
What do you think of this teen’s story?
Do you think crimes perpetrated by teenage bullies should come with punishments more like this?
Good for you Gavin! You are a better person and more of an example of how to treat your peers than the so called "normal" kids showed themselves to be.
I have 3 sons w/ disabilities. My middle son has Autism & I have seen how hard it can be for him to fit in as well as his desire to just be "one of the kids". It's heartbreaking to watch children and adults treat him as trouble or odd because of his "invisible" disorder. He is kindhearted, loving and sensitive. I have seen him shunned and teased, but what Gavin was forced to endure is devastating. I am so proud to hear about Gavin's decision to educate these kids and their families in lieu of a traditional punishment. It show more class, heart & wisdom than you would see in most people, children and adults alike. I am proud to be the mother of a smart, kind, and loving child who happens to have A.S.D. & elated to see him in the company of brilliant and merciful kids like Gavin! Kudos to Gavin's mom for raising an amazing young man! It gives mothers of younger A.S.D. children, like me, such joy. Thank you for your inspiration and sharing this tragically beautiful situation.