When we asked Grandparents.com members whether they thought parents shoud pay them for their babysitting services, we received some passionate responses. There’s a huge difference, many of you pointed out, between doing occasional date-night sitting and providing what amounts to no-cost daily daycare. And while many of you agreed that caring for a child on a regular basis warranted a paycheck, others said that they could never accept money from their kids. Check out what your fellow grandparents had to say:
"I have no problem babysitting my grandchildren when their parents have appointments, or would like to go out to dinner. However, when it comes to providing daycare, I feel they should pay something. We got (and still get) a lot of static from my daughter about her paying us for daycare. Considering that she was paying us maybe half the going rate, I think she was really lucky. I think we would do it again, but we would have to have an agreement in writing so we both knew exactly what we were expecting." — alanapr
"I don’t want to be paid, but ... help with the extra housework caused by the children would be nice. When I mention it, I always hear about how much they already have to do." — ConnieFibro
I love having my granddaughter and often ask to have her over and offer her parents a day or night off. However, when I watch her for a week while they are working I've asked for a few dollars a day for fun money to take her places or get her things. My daughter has been really good about it. Its cheaper than daycare and she has more fun. I would do it for free if her parents needed me but this way we all feel good about it!
Wow, I think it's incredibly selfish to have your parents watch your kids on a regular basis and not pay them for there time. At least half of what you would pay a daycare. I know if it was my own mother watching even just 1 of my two children I would insist on paying her. She takes time out from her life, cleans and cares for my child better then anyone else could and she uses her own resources. A little visit once and awhile where my mother babysits my children while I go to a movie or do groceries I usually bring her a coffee as a thank you. I truly think it's selfish and inconsiderate not to reward your parent for taking care of your child or children on a regular basis. They did their job, they raised you and now they are just helping you out and the least you can do is show your appreciation.
I think if your dropping off your kids on a regular basis for your parents to babysit I think you should help your parents out a bit. Give them a some spending money or help them pay a bill or two if your going to drop your child off on regular basis. However, I think that if your dropping your kids off for a good reason like work or school your parents should be happy to be babysitting. If I asked my mom to babysit once or twice a week so that I could go to work or school and she asked me for money...I don't think I would want to drop my child off for my mother. I would just assume that she doesn't want to watch my child. I really think grandparents should just be happy to be a part of their grandchild's life. Some grandparents don't even get to see their grand kids so the ones that do should appreciate it a little bit.
I am a mom of a 2 year old and I work a full-time job in retail. I do not have the schedule in which a daycare will help me so my grandparents and my mother both play a big part in helping me with my child. I think that it is a great offer to say that your willing to pay a grandparent but I don't think that it should be like puttting your child in daycare. I believe a grandparent should be happy with the quality time. I pay for my childs stuff (food, diapers, ect.) but have never even been asked to pay "for there time." I help them with things for helping me by watching her. It's a barter system. that should be the best policy with family.
As far as one is not taking their parents for 'granted' I don't think you should pay grandparents to baby sit. One should be sensitive enough to understand tht even if ur parents don't say anything they have life too. It's a luxury.don't overuse it!
I cannot believe some parents think they need to be paid to watch their grandchildren. Now watching them during the week so you can go to work is a bit different, I would supply money for food and diapers, etc. My parents would laugh at me if i tried to give them money to watch my son. They look at it as a gift to spend time with him...