It's now December. 'Tis the season for GETTING! That’s right ! Gimmie, gimmie, gimmie! But in order to get, you have to give, RIGHT? So, that’s what I do. I give people stuff, so they give back to me. And I teach my kids to do it too!
However, what we are getting back, probably isn't what you are expecting.
Our family, at Christmas time, gives everything a parent needs, from gifts, to wrapping paper, heck, even tape if they need it, to local families struggling with a sick child. We know full well the pressure of the holidays mounted on top of the stresses of having a sick child.
Sick kids are exorbitantly expensive. Hundreds of thousands of dollars, thankfully covered by insurance (over a million in our case) is a blessing, but there's always the co-insurance, the deductibles. If your lucky, just $20 bucks a pop co-pay per doctors appointment. ($40 for a specialist, which is all we ever have) Sometimes 3 times a day. $1200 a month for just one, tier three, uncovered medication. Forget the other 15 at $20 per refill monthly. Durable goods NOT covered (including but not limited to the $2300 pump and $200 a month box of bags that delivered nutrition via a surgically implanted tube into her stomach). Can’t forget the $200 A CAN, not covered, special pre-digested formula. How about gas for a 15 passenger van, round trip, 200 miles A DAY for 6 months, then every other day for another 6 months. Even the nasty hospital cafeteria food you end up not eating is expensive. It all adds up. Not to mention the fact you're scared and your heart is breaking because your child is suffering and there are probably siblings at home, just as scared and worried too.
We’ve been there, done that, bought that tee shirt. And its not a comfy one. Its even more uncomfortable than those “athletic fit” shirts that you break out in a sweat just THINKING about squeezing into.
We give, because what we get back is indescribable. We give, because we know how it feels to be blessed by friends and strangers alike. We give, because what we get back, the joy, the grace, the love, they are what really make Christmas, merry.
We give so parents can have ONE LESS THING on their mind.
So a sibling, who's brother or sister is critically ill, if not dying, can have a few laughs and get some goodies.
So a child, who has more scars from cut downs and ports than friends on Facebook and counts their red cells and platelets instead of pimples and Pokemon cards, can forget, even if just for a moment, that every day for them is a battle.
We donate directly to families. Some we know from the neighborhood, some are referred thru schools, social workers or doctors offices. We donate to the pediatric floors of local hospitals. We send “care packages” to kids on the bone marrow unit at the hospital in Long Island where our daughter had her stem cell transplant in 2005. But we also donate anonymously.We have been known to pull the good ole’ “ding dong ditch” as some families desperately need their privacy. Or we give our donations to a school official who makes the delivery for us. We know how embarrassing it can sometime feel to be dependent on the help of strangers. And its OK. We’ve been there. We understand.
Our personal journey with a sick child began on April 23, 1999 when our daughter Kylie Jae was born severely ill. It took over a year for her to be properly diagnosed with Diamond Blackfan Anemia.(www.dbafoundation.org) Dozens of surgeries, years of hospitalizations and an experimental stem cell transplant over the last 12 years has really shaped us as a family, and since then, we have been teaching our children to give in gratitude for what they have been given, to bless others the way that they have been blessed and to share their love and compassion with those needing comfort and support.
Our kids get their classrooms to run toy drives. They tell friends parents about what we do. This year, the ENTIRE 6 grade is running a drive. We get donations of left over toys from the Marty Lyons Foundation (www.martylyonsfoundation.org) Wish Kids Christmas Party. We buy stuff ourselves. We do whatever we have to, to make it happen. And I'm hoping, that after reading this. You will too...
You don’t have to do it on such a scale as large as we do (although we wish ours was larger) but you can do it on an individual basis. Ask around, look at local papers, talk to your schools social worker… find a family dealing with the devastation of a sick child, or other cause close to your heart, and sponsor them. Take your kids to local stores, tell them what you are doing. Ask if they are willing to make a donation. I promise you, you will get more cooperation than not. And it isn't always toys. Gift cards are PERFECT! Amazon cards are great, especially for those persnickety teens. Grocery store cards are a godsend for parents and cards to a restaurants that offer delivery or take out is a blessing for a family with no time to even breathe
There is never too much, or too little that you can do for a family in need, to give them a little bit of hope, faith and joy especially at a time when, for them, those simple things seem so hard to come by.
Teach your kids that the feelings they get at Christmas, are abundantly more amazing than the things they get.
While my children were growing up, my mother-in-law would send them a check before Christmas every year. While they were small, I got them into the habit of picking a child, their same age, off of the Angel tree at a local store and buying gifts for that child. They didn't do a great job wrapping the gifts and I'll never know if the organization re-wrapped the gifts or not, but it did teach them both the meaning of Christmas...that it was not their Birthday...but a time to give to those less fortunate. Granted, we were not well-off at the time, but the boys had what they needed...others did not.
what better gift could people give at christmas than to give a donation to a family going through such a situation as described in the post above. Better to give a donation than to buy an uneeded gift for someone who already has everything they need already! Thank you for your heartfelt post and all you do to help families going through difficult times.
You are an amazing woman. I know this because I didn't know you did all this and yet the gift you have given me is incredible. Play and Pray it forward.
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