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What should I do in regards to this situation
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on Feb 06, 2014 (Read 385 times | Comments: 4)
My distant cousin's mother is dying of cancer. I have not spoken to her about her mom because I don't want to bring it up and I don't know exactly what to say because I am TERRIBLE when it comes to these types of situations. I am JUST NOW coming to terms with the death of my grandmother which was very sudden who passed away from cancer in 2012. I hate going to funerals I didn't even want to attend my own grandmothers funeral because I can't handle things like that. It takes me along time to get back to "normal". I have not spoken to her mom in almost 7 yrs. I lived with them briefly for like 3 months years ago while I was waiting for college to start so I could move into my dorm. I don't want to go to the funeral when that time comes because I don't like funerals and I'm sure they are expecting and hoping I come. I already deal with depression,going to funerals just makes me want to end everything. I'm not going to tell them that is the reason why because that would bring up questions.
ForReal4Real
ForReal4Real
on Feb 22, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

If you believe in prayer, first of all always pray. I think you should talk to your parents to explain why you don't want to go to the funeral or respectfully decline with condolences. For yourself, the way I was able to deal with death was to realize that death is a part of life. As humans we love hard and we grieve long. But if we acknowledge that death regardless of how it happens does happen. Remember the good times. Smile at the fun times. Have comfort that death is only rebirth into another life. (Whatever after life you believe). As far as you cousin, some people only wants someone to be there and just listen.
reddjenkins
reddjenkins
on Jul 29, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

I dont know..this is tough. I also hate funerals.
Valcourt2012
Valcourt2012
on Aug 27, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

I think you should ask, it may upset her but she may also need to let out her grief, it also shows that you care enough to even ask. But timing is everything. Pray for the right time
apigue
apigue
on Aug 28, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

I honestly think its the anticipation that is making you crazy. I recently lost my cousin at age 48. We were very close. I felt jus like u. Didn't wanna go to funeral. Felt down right sick to my stomach about going. As if dealing with her passing wasn't bad enough. Going to her funeral was making me nauseous. If you think you can bear and grin it. Im sure it would mean atlot to your cousin. If you just can't do it. Maybe send flowers and send your cousin a card with your condolences. With all this rambling...you aren't alone feeling this way.