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Would you be okay if your best friend and boyfriend were a little too buddy-buddy?
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on Jun 10, 2009 (Read 659 times | Comments: 8)
Last night was my graduation night, and, you know, a person only gets so many days in life that you're really proud of. My family came from different states, sister, brother, everyone was there, and I invited my boyfriend and my best friend. The ENTIRE TIME when we came back home they would not stop talking!! My aunt, uncle, and grandparents would try to get in a word edgewise, they were so focused on talking they didn't even hear them! He was telling her pretty personal things about himself (??), they were making plans to go to concerts in which "lisa can come too i guess haha", they totally ignored me, and at the end of the night when I offered to drive him home, she offered to do it!! I was so pissed, but I am not usually a jealous person, but I just felt they were both out of line and should have been more considerate on the day of my graduation. I talked to him about it, he's super apologetic, but my friend would NOT take it well. Am I overreacting or would you be upset too??
marcelodeny20
marcelodeny20
on Jun 10, 2009 Quote  »     Reply  »

well accually to tell you the truth that kind of thing happened to me once i introduced my best friend to my boy friend and they became almost like best friends and the next thing i knew they were going to the movies and not inviting me with them. so i really dont think that it is very repectful that your friend is being all buddy buddy with your boyfriend.
SiLvEr-StArS
SiLvEr-StArS
on Jun 11, 2009 Quote  »     Reply  »

Hey Girl, I'm Glad you talked to your boyfriend and he was understanding, But with ur friend, your affaid she is not going to take it well. Just explain to her if she respeacts you and truly cares about you, then she will understand and stop being so friendly and flirty with your boyfriend. Keep your guard up, But not to up ok Hon.
jdmomma
jdmomma
on Jun 15, 2009 Quote  »     Reply  »

so are you saying that u talked with your friend about it and she did not take it well or that you havent and that she wouldnt take it well. Because if u did talk with her already and she didnt take it well, then I'd say she's in denial about feelings she has for him. I would be upset, personally. its not nice to basically ignore you even if it was HIS best friend and it was a GUY! I would be on the lookout, but stay cool. all u can hope for is that if they DO have feelings for eachother, then he will tell you and/or break it off. - not cheat on you. make sure you both are on the same page with that... everyone knows that everyone hates cheaters, but i think its a good thing to bring up in general when you're dating someone just to make sure you have similar values. of course, dont make it look like you're talking about this situation. that could make him frustrated.
javgre08
javgre08
on Jun 15, 2009 Quote  »     Reply  »

I would be upset. It happened to me too, but the difference was that my bestfriend and boyfriend (now husband) were bestfriends before I was in the picture. I became close to her and ltitle by little started liking him. She never in anyway told me she liked him or I would have stayed away. He never liked her as a girlfriend b/c she was messy and didn't cook (backlorette fever). She started needing him for everything. Calling and txtn alot and it started bugging me, so I talked to both, let them know the situation (of course separate) and my husband apologized and noticed himself how different she was acting. She was a bit weird with me for a couple of weeks, but later came to me and said she never meant too be that way and well . . . I married my boyfriend and kept my best friend. Give her time and see if she changes. If not then don't sweat it, she might be trouble along the road if you insist on the friendship. OR she needs a man herself!! Hope I helped . . . Gretchen
lala_gem
lala_gem
on Jun 15, 2009 Quote  »     Reply  »

i wouldnt be okay with that...if thier too close..that means they have a relationship!....you should tell your boyfreind that your not comfortable with that
Keyla78
Keyla78
on Jun 15, 2009 Quote  »     Reply  »

No its not ok and if your bf can't recognize that is bcuz she doesn't want to. i understand ur situation bcuz i went through it and the outcome was not good one and the bad thing is that u don't find out to weeks or months later. So i say either nip the situation in the butt or both of them.
funKat
funKat
on Jun 16, 2009 Quote  »     Reply  »

I think it is very disrespectful for your best friend and boyfriend to be 'super close' even when you just introduced them. I would probably be upset in that situation too. I think it is good to tell what you think /feel about it to your boyfriend and your best friend. If he loves you, he will keep some distance from your best friend! And spend more time with you. I guess she will also soon realize her mistake.
MadHatter
MadHatter
on Aug 14, 2009 Quote  »     Reply  »

I think what they both did was a little disrespectful. and the fact that it was in front of your family was worst. this should be the time for your bf to be showing the family that "hey your daughter is in good hands!" not the other way around. if my best friend did that to me with my bf? its over. i might be overacting in the over part, but then i really have no patience for that type of attitude. or you can always talk to them about it. tell them you understand the fact that you were with your family and they were feeling a little left out but...