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perfect time to have another?
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on Feb 12, 2013 (Read 14624 times | Comments: 15)
I'm a SAHM of a wonderful little girl, almost three, and I have a 6-year-old boy who is in first grade. I've had INSANE baby fever lately... I'm dying for another child. However, we're definitely not the richest couple on the block. We're getting a nice tax return, and are comfortable right now, but my husband is really worried about finances and the future and what-if's. Is there ever a perfect time to have a(nother) child?
lauryn3418
lauryn3418
on Nov 06, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

I found out when my daughter was 5 months old that I was pregnant (a DEFINITE oops baby)... I was and still am terrified because we were planning to wait at least another year because of finances and the like; however, I know that we can make it work- as I am sure you can too. It is really a matter of being willing to sacrifice a little more. If you have no problem sacrificing a little more... go ahead... because there will never be a time when you are TRULY financially ready, as a an average family. Best of luck!!!
madupers
madupers
on Nov 07, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

Pick a day where you are both not rushed and relaxed, take two sheets of paper and draw a vertical line right in the middle. On top on the left side write "good idea because..." and on top, next to the right side of the line write "it would be tough because...". Take one sheet and give the other to your husband and separately from each other, write down on the left and on the right why it is a good idea and/or it would be tough to have a baby now. Compare your sheets and discuss your findings. You can take a couple of days to fill it out if you prefer. It might help you make the best decision for now... and you can try again the same sheet since your situation might change for different reasons like financial situation, family obligations, move... Trust that you will make the best decision after you talk about it and don't blame each other about the result once you decide what you should do together. It is a big decision but I found out that this "system" worked well many times,
madupers
madupers
on Nov 07, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

Pick a day where you are both not rushed and relaxed, take two sheets of paper and draw a vertical line right in the middle. On top on the left side write "good idea because..." and on top, next to the right side of the line write "it would be tough because...". Take one sheet and give the other to your husband and separately from each other, write down on the left and on the right why it is a good idea and/or it would be tough to have a baby now. Compare your sheets and discuss your findings. You can take a couple of days to fill it out if you prefer. It might help you make the best decision for now... and you can try again the same sheet since your situation might change for different reasons like financial situation, family obligations, move... Trust that you will make the best decision after you talk about it and don't blame each other about the result once you decide what you should do together. It is a big decision but I found out that this "system" worked well many times,
HSMommyChronicles
HSMommyChronicles
on Nov 08, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

Hi there! I'm in the same situation myself...my daughter isn't as old as your son is though. My daughter is 3 and for about half a year now I have been having horrible baby fever... Same as you, we are rolling in the dough so money is really the first thing that comes to my and my hubbys mind. We have decided to wait a few more years, though, to give us time to prepare. We are a very young couple so I know that waiting a couple more years wont hurt us, but that may be different for other couples. It really just depends on each families situation.
Pixiecasey
Pixiecasey
on Nov 09, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

I think the important thing here is that you and your husband both talk about it together. You better think about the good and the bad and that will come for let's face it the 21 years that you're going to be with this baby. I know what you mean by having baby fever, I myself have not had any children yet in 22 living on my own with my fiancé. We are currently waiting until the time is right for the both of us. The key is communication all the way.
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