Venting On The Net

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Venting On The Net
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People living with the nagging feeling that they have some unfinished business to take care of may be relieved to find there is a new way to vent.  A website called The Things You Would Have Said allows people to send in open letters to individuals they feel they have some unresolved issues with.  

A recent report from USA Today discusses the new website and what sending in confessional style letters can do for people. According to experts, people have an especially difficult time dealing with things they feel are unresolvable like a lost love or not having the chance to say goodbye to a loved one before they pass away.  

Creator of the site, Jackie Hooper, attributes the sudden death of actress Natasha Richardson to giving her the idea to start The Things You Would Have Said.  Hooper says that 70 percent of people who write in to her site are writing to loved ones who have died, but many write in to address unfinished business they have with the living.  

Another interesting aspect of the site that Hooper points out is that almost half of the letters are written to people’s fathers. Clinical psychologist, Michael Diamond, explains why people feel the need to address their fathers.  Diamond says, “There are a lot of wounded children out there - male and female- that are trying to resolve what their fathers did or didn’t do.”

Hooper posts one letter a day to her site and admits that there are many still waiting to be posted.

What do you think of the new site The Things You Would Have Said?

Do you think posting letters to a public website is a good way for people to resolve issues with loved ones?

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  • msfriendly By msfriendly

    An addition to my last post: I know you can't do this with someone who has passed on. I mean you should resolve things with those you CAN talk to face to face!

  • msfriendly By msfriendly

    They may feel better by doing this, but I don't think it will help them resolve anything in the end. If you have something that needs to be said, I think you should say it (more assertively) to the person you need to be talking with.

  • dreemz8680 By dreemz8680

    It may feel better to vent at the time but in the long run I don't think that it is going to help them resolve any deep down issues. They need to face them head on or with therapy if it is something extremely deep rooted.

  • mardel By mardel

    I agree with MadHatter! The web has become to some people a way to do everything including speaking about their feelings with total strangers! In some situations I guess it's ok but to spill our whole life issues regarding yourself or someone is just to much to share for me! If I have to vent I would do it differently. Remember guys everything you put out there will be seen by people you may not want knowing!

  • MadHatter By MadHatter

    For me? I won?t do it. Something like that is pretty sensitive and users need to use discretion when they are going to post something sensitive up like that. Its good to vent, but be careful where you vent. The internet is an extremely dangerous environment now.

  • musicmomma By musicmomma

    I checked out the website. It's very interesting. If makes people feel better to resolve issues by sharing their feelings with the internet world...then go for it. I tend to keep my feelings to I, personally, would have trouble participating in something like that.

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