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mariab94


 
 
Starting school
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on Jan 24, 2017 (Read 551 times | Comments: 8)
I am a mom of 2 will be 3 in June. My first child will be starting school this year. I think I am more nervous about it than she is. She has never been away from me for more than a couple hours at a time. Is there anything I can do to make the change easier for the both of us. I'm afraid she will get picked on or scared and I will not be there to help her.
aneube
aneube
on Jan 25, 2017 Quote  »     Reply  »

Hi there- Our 2 1/2 and 6 year old have both been in childcare since they were infants. I think there are two things that help the most are creating a routine when you arrive at the classroom, and always saying goodbye- but keeping it brief and simple. So, for example, with our son. We greet the teacher, put all our supplies away, and then he settles down at the table and eats a yogurt. I sign him in, and then give him a snuggle and say I love you, have a good day, and mama will see you when school is done. I find the routine and consistency makes the transition so much calmer. Also, having confidence in your caregivers is key. They will be there to help and support your child through the rough spots. Often times, they can even send you a photo or email to reassure you that your child is happy and playing. Another tip would be to start reading books about going to school.
ThatGrrlTina
ThatGrrlTina
on Jan 25, 2017 Quote  »     Reply  »

You're me from 5 years ago when my Mini started Kindergarten. Her preschool and pre-k programs were only a few hours a piece. Her first day of K was the longest we'd been apart from each other that she wasn't at my parents' house. I. Was. A. WRECK! I paced and cried, cried and paced. My heart pounded. I couldn't eat or even work out. I was a total bundle of nerves. My fears and concerns weren't alleviated until my baby got off that bus, all smiles and happiness. I brushed back tears as she told me about her day. She loved it. My advice is to just keep talking about school. Mama to mama, there is nothing you can do to keep your kid from getting picked on or bullied. Mini has dealt with a difficult student every year. The only place you can help her is home. Keep the dialogue open. When she tells you about a difficult student, send in a note to the teacher. Opening and keeping a dialogue with the teacher (and principal, should the need arise) will help ease your mind as well. *HUGS*
Chris213
Chris213
on Jan 25, 2017 Quote  »     Reply  »

As a child care provider (I have worked in the toddler room of a child care center for 14 years), I can tell you that the best thing you can do is for YOU to be calm and relaxed about the whole experience. If YOU act anxious/nervous/scared that is how your child will react too. Kids are smart! They pick up on these things so easily. The best thing you can do is talk with her in an excited yet relaxed way about how much fun she's going to have, how you'll see her in just a few hours (or after nap or whatever the timing may be) and when it is time to drop her off, "bandaid" it. Meaning, say goodbye, I love you, have fun, etc, and just leave. Do not stay for a long time because this will always just make the child more anxious if they pick up on your anxiety. In our program, we always call parents every day for the first week to answer any questions the parent may have and give a mini report on how the day is going so far, and requesting this might help you to have an easier time as well.
velvet1116
velvet1116
on Jan 26, 2017 Quote  »     Reply  »

Number one rule,How you are feeling ,your kids sense and will feel the same way. Relax and have fun with her going to school,it is an adventure that you both will enjoy! Be brave ,smile , give her a kiss ,tell her you love her and you will be there when she gets out of school you can cry after ,something we all do . Most Moms feel the way you do ,we all want our babies close to us ,safe and loved . One of the greatest gifts you can give your daughter is self confidence ,approach life as an adventure so she will be a strong ,independant woman. I also told my daughter everyday that she is beautiful ,strong and can handle anything that come her way . Please do not make her afraid because she will approach everything in life that way!
ima_lil_galaxy
ima_lil_galaxy
on Jan 26, 2017 Quote  »     Reply  »

My sister in law just had a baby and her first just turned 4. What we learned was that it's all in the language and the way the family approaches it. We radically accepted that this is going to happen and we needed to be excited to the point that we believed it so he wouldn't be nervous "leaving the family." My sister in law was extremely panicked and took on yoga after dropping him off to help ease her The first couple weeks were rough, but they actively built a new routine for mom and made sure they met the families before he went in. This is an added experience that's super important to frame positively, it's going to be an added social element and you're going to see how much your little one picks up everyday. Ease your fears, mom, you've prepared them well for this!
mariab94
mariab94
on Jan 27, 2017 Quote  »     Reply  »

Thanks everyone for all of your advice. It's exactly what I needed. She has actually told me the other day that she is ready for school. We talk about her meeting new friends and making crafts and learning new things. She is so excited about school which helps relieve my worries. I am very thrilled to see that she is ready for school we still have about seven moths before she starts but it will get here so fast. I have been trying my best to make it sound fun and exciting for her. Now she can't wait to start.
sarahtseng
sarahtseng
on Jan 30, 2017 Quote  »     Reply  »

I can totally feel for you. When my daughter Ava started preschool, it was a difficult day for me, even though she was so excited. Two years later she loves school, and I'm enjoying meeting the other parents and having some alone time with my son while she's away. We visited the school once to meet the director and once while it was in session to meet the teacher and see how a typical day works. That was such a big help for me in knowing that she would be taken care of.
Breana0827
Breana0827
on Jan 31, 2017 Quote  »     Reply  »

Omg i know exactly what you mean! Im a mother of 3, my eldest son is 3 my first daugter is 17months and my youngest is 4 months! My son will start school in august and so will my oldest daughter im sad they have to go but i know its best for them. We got this mama!!