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Modern Etiquette: What Rules Still Exist? Tell us your thoughts to win a $75 Amazon gift card

Modern Etiquette: What Rules Still Exist? Tell us your thoughts to win a $75 Amazon gift card

"Dear Abby" was one of the original syndicated advice columns, appearing in over 1,200 newspapers and read by over 95 million people. Times have certainly changed since "Dear Abby" launched in 1956, but we are curious: are there still rules for common etiquette? And if so, what are they?

In the past few weeks, 5 burning questions have come up within the SheSpeaks Team. After much discussion, here are our best answers. Do you agree? Tell us what you think and you'll be entered to win a $75 Amazon gift card!

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Q 1. If you bring a dish to a get-together, is it appropriate to bring home the leftovers?

Not usually. Leftovers should be left for the host to enjoy. However, if there are a ton of leftovers and the host is truly insisting you take it, then take it. It's certainly not worth fighting over.

2. Is it rude to leave your cell phone on the table when dining with friends?

Yes, it's rude, but sometimes it has to be done. For example, if you are out without your kids, then it's ok to keep the phone out in case there is any issue at home. But don't take any calls or texts unless they are truly important. It's not fun to be at dinner with someone who cares more about their device than you.

3. If a single person is going in on a present with a couple who is married or dating, does the single person pay 50% and the couple pay 50% or does each individual person pay one-third?

If everyone knows the recipient equally, than everyone pays equally. But if the partner in the couple doesn't know the recipient and is really just a guest, then 50-50 might be ok. Make sure to talk about it with each other before assuming the amount.

4. How do you get out of an annoying group text conversation without insulting everyone in it?

No one wants to hear constant phone beeping when they're not interested in the chat. If there's a chance that the discussion will end soon, then just silence your phone and ignore it. But if it looks like this chain might be permanent, then it's ok to beg out. Best to send a light-hearted text, something like, "Hey all, love this group but need to get away from the phone and actually pay attention to my children! Can you remove me from the chat? Thx!"

5. Are thank you notes necessary? Do they always have to be hand-written?

Everyone appreciates a thank-you but there are varying degrees of how it needs to be said. If your friend buys you a drink for your bithday, sending a thank-you text afterwards is perfect. But if you receive more meaningful gifts, like at your wedding, graduation party or baby shower, than, yes, we still believe that hand-written notes are ideal. Email is ok for informal events if it is truly personalized. If someone spent time picking out a thoughtful (or expensive) gift for your new baby, they deserve something more than a group email saying, "Thanks for coming to my shower! Loved your gift!" 

What do you think? What questions do you have? Enter for the chance to win a $75 Amazon gift card!

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*One lucky contestant will be chosen at random to receive a $75 Amazon gift card. Giveaway is open through July 28th, 2019 to U.S. residents at least 18 years of age. Entrants must be a member of SheSpeaks. If you are not a member, click here to join. Winner will be notified by email.

Update: Thanks to all who entered! Congrats to our winner, SheSpeaks member beaniebaby70.

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  • ebtjm70 By ebtjm70
    08.06.19  

    1. I always leave the left overs for the host. 2. I think it is rude also, it makes me feel like they're waiting on a call or text and can not be more than a foot from their phone. I always leave mine in my bedroom on silence, when I have company over, if I'm visiting someone, I leave my phone in my purse, or in my car (hidden). 3. I definitely think they should split the bill 50/50 also. Makes everyone more comfortable, and yes talk about it first to make sure everyone is comfortable with it. 4. I totally agree with this one. If I'm in a group text and it doesn't pertain to me, or I'm busy and can't talk, my phone will go on MUTE. If the conversation is still going on hours later I'd sent a sweet message & excuse myself from the group. 5. I totally agree with this one also. depending on the type of situation/ event, there's a different way of sending a "thank you" out, whether text, email, or a nice thank you card via USPS (old school).

  • MissELF By MissELF
    08.22.19  

    I can agree with these answers.

  • sandikaye By sandikaye
    08.28.19  

    Is it still proper etiquette to place your left hand in your lap while you are using your right hand to eat, unless you are cutting meat, etc. (right hand in lap for lefties)? I suppose I'm talking about nicer restaurants, not fast food places, maybe, or maybe you need to do this in fast food restaurants, too. I feel I should still do this but I rarely ever see anyone else doing this.

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