It's a ???: Parents Decide To Keep Their Child's Gender a Secret

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It's a ???: Parents Decide To Keep Their Child's Gender a Secret
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No matter how far it seems we’ve come as a culture in erasing gender stereotypes, many little girls still dress in head-to-toe pink while baby boys often wear every shade of blue. One Toronto couple decided early on that their third child would not be defined by any one color...or gender.

Kathy Witterick and David Stocker, are raising their baby, named Storm Stocker, “genderless” for the time being (with only the child’s two older brothers and one close family friend knowing whether the baby is a he or she). A recent Parent Central report discusses the couple’s less than ordinary decision to keep their new baby’s gender a secret.

Mom and dad sent out this announcement to friends and family when their little one was born; “We decided not to share Storm's sex for now -- a tribute to freedom and choice in place of limitation, a standup to what the world could become in Storm's lifetime.”

The couple has said that they are hopeful they have given Storm some time to decide for him or herself which gender feels right before declaring it to the public. Witterick explains, “We thought that if we delayed sharing that information, in this case hopefully, we might knock off a couple million of those messages by the time that Storm decides Storm would like to share.”

Though Witterick and Stocker told family and friends about the gender of their first two sons at birth, they have taken measures to keep them free of gender stereotypes as well. Both children are allowed to choose clothing from the boys or girls section of the store. Oldest son, Jazz, often wears pink dresses and paints his nails.

Jazz is now of school age, but chose to stay home last year. Witterick explains how the process of visiting schools was difficult because of the way her son has chosen to dress. She says, “When we would go and visit programs, people — children and adults — would immediately react with Jazz over his gender.”

What do you think of this couple’s decision to keep their baby’s gender a secret?

Do you feel what they are doing will help their child avoid messages of gender stereotypes?

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  • Lusadi By Lusadi

    I think these people are complete morons.

  • docmp78 By docmp78

    thats crazy!! i wish parenting was compulsory course ,before which people could conceive!!!

  • klafave By klafave

    seriously? this is why we have a whole generation of kids that dont have a clue!!!!

  • JoyceMarie62 By JoyceMarie62

    In my opnion...this may confuse the child as he/she gets older. It's hard enough growing up these days! Let the child be who they are and if and when the time comes there's a with it then.

  • ruthterry By ruthterry

    so what happens when the child has to go to the bathroom at school, or when they get a job at work, are we going to have restrooms for women, men, and HE-SHE's??? stupid parents!

  • Saranduke By Saranduke

    When people ask if your baby is a girl or a boy and you don't want to tell the baby's gender you are raising a question that there is something different about your child which is a disservice to that child.

  • toshiajade By toshiajade

    So they are using their baby to push their ideas and beliefs?

  • didama By didama

    Geez! I'm sorry, but, this just seems overboard. You can ensure that you're child is not stereotyped in many other ways. Why on earth would you not let people know the child's sex?

  • Jensimp_ly By Jensimp_ly

    I understand why they are doing it but I think it's a little extreme. I personally try to not push gender stereotypes on my children but would never go as far as hiding what they are. I let my kids play with whatever toy catches their fancy. My son has his own baby dolls and his own Barbies and in turn my daughter has her own cars and G.I. Joes. When something comes up where it is said that it is only for girls or only for boys we talk about how that is wrong and that any one can enjoy them. I am hoping that it will result in them being better parents and better spouses.

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