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It's a ???: Parents Decide To Keep Their Child's Gender a Secret

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It's a ???: Parents Decide To Keep Their Child's Gender a Secret
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No matter how far it seems we’ve come as a culture in erasing gender stereotypes, many little girls still dress in head-to-toe pink while baby boys often wear every shade of blue. One Toronto couple decided early on that their third child would not be defined by any one color...or gender.

Kathy Witterick and David Stocker, are raising their baby, named Storm Stocker, “genderless” for the time being (with only the child’s two older brothers and one close family friend knowing whether the baby is a he or she). A recent Parent Central report discusses the couple’s less than ordinary decision to keep their new baby’s gender a secret.

Mom and dad sent out this announcement to friends and family when their little one was born; “We decided not to share Storm's sex for now -- a tribute to freedom and choice in place of limitation, a standup to what the world could become in Storm's lifetime.”

The couple has said that they are hopeful they have given Storm some time to decide for him or herself which gender feels right before declaring it to the public. Witterick explains, “We thought that if we delayed sharing that information, in this case hopefully, we might knock off a couple million of those messages by the time that Storm decides Storm would like to share.”

Though Witterick and Stocker told family and friends about the gender of their first two sons at birth, they have taken measures to keep them free of gender stereotypes as well. Both children are allowed to choose clothing from the boys or girls section of the store. Oldest son, Jazz, often wears pink dresses and paints his nails.

Jazz is now of school age, but chose to stay home last year. Witterick explains how the process of visiting schools was difficult because of the way her son has chosen to dress. She says, “When we would go and visit programs, people — children and adults — would immediately react with Jazz over his gender.”

What do you think of this couple’s decision to keep their baby’s gender a secret?

Do you feel what they are doing will help their child avoid messages of gender stereotypes?

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  • lpendergrass By lpendergrass
    10.18.11  

    This makes no sense!

  • greeneyedgirl96 By greeneyedgirl96
    10.18.11  

    Wow!! I see counseling in all of these children's future! Not a fan! These children are going to find themselves emotionally distressed and disturbed when they get older. Why would parents intentionally do this to their children?

  • loganbug97 By loganbug97
    10.18.11  

    I believe this is absurd!!! OF course they need to know their gender! I am all for not stereotyping, I have a daughter and a son and they are both allowed to act how they choose, however they do understand that there are differences and they can not use the same bathrooms when we are in public!! Pretty crazy that my preschool aged children are smarter than these people! How come you have to get a background check to adopt a cat but not have a baby??

  • stewysgurl By stewysgurl
    10.18.11  

    Wow! Just when you think you've heard it all, something like this happens! I have a hard time understanding this couples over-the-top need to take on stereotypes. There are plenty of other ways they could "make their point" without involving their own child. Who are they to deny this baby of his or her own identity? A large part of that being who you are, what you are and where you came from.

  • chloeeeegirl By chloeeeegirl
    10.18.11  

    Who cares what your child is? It's a boy or girl down below regardless of whatever these people are trying to "protect" this child from. This poor kid is going to be so screwed up.

  • Lusadi By Lusadi
    10.18.11  

    I think these people are complete morons.

  • docmp78 By docmp78
    10.17.11  

    thats crazy!! i wish parenting was compulsory course ,before which people could conceive!!!

  • klafave By klafave
    10.17.11  

    seriously? this is why we have a whole generation of kids that dont have a clue!!!!

  • JoyceMarie62 By JoyceMarie62
    10.17.11  

    In my opnion...this may confuse the child as he/she gets older. It's hard enough growing up these days! Let the child be who they are and if and when the time comes there's a situation...deal with it then.

  • ruthterry By ruthterry
    10.17.11  

    so what happens when the child has to go to the bathroom at school, or when they get a job at work, are we going to have restrooms for women, men, and HE-SHE's??? stupid parents!

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