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Early Twenties Too Young To Say 'I Do'?

Early Twenties Too Young To Say 'I Do'?

A recent SheSpeaks poll reveals that almost 60% of our members think that between the ages of 25 and 29 is the perfect time for nuptials. Only about 11% feel 18 to 24 year olds should be planning a wedding and there may be a good reason for this.

Though there is no magic number for when you should tie the knot, research does show that your marriage has a better chance of surviving if you wait to make that commitment until you are in your mid-twenties or later. The fact that many women have already been through college by the time they turn 25 could have something to do with marriage success.

A Cosmopolitan magazine report points out some research that reveals women with more education usually have more lasting relationships than women who have received less schooling. Terri Orbuch, PhD, author of Five Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great, reveals why women who already have college degrees fare better in marriages. Orbuch says, “Educated women tend to be more confident about who they are and less willing to settle for a man who doesn’t meet their standards”

Just the fact that we are a little older and wiser once we reach our mid-twenties probably has a lot to do with a lasting marriage too. By the time most women reach 25 they know who they are and have enough dating experience to know who would make the best long term partner.

What age do you think is the right time to get married?

Why do you think people who marry at 25 or older have a better chance of staying together?

 

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  • bhall1331 By bhall1331
    10.10.11  

    I think this very much depends on the maturity level of both parties. Alot of my friends and family married early, some are going through marriage counseling, some are divorced, and some are working out great with a beautiful family allready! I think that marriage can work in early twenties as long as both parties are willing to be un-selfish, and make the relationship work. We all know that sometimes marriage is not easy.

  • Bryelee By Bryelee
    10.12.11  

    I think you should ignore what other people say and get married at whatever age you are ready. I got married at 23 because I waited to have a wedding. Looking back I should have just eloped because the bigger house would have been the smarter choice.

  • Yashersgirl By Yashersgirl
    10.12.11  

    absolutely!!!! Your 20's is just when you are coming full circle in to your beginning adult life. You are figuring out who you are and may I add men aren't very mature at that age either. You are young, do not be in a rush because even though I am extremely happy with my life, sometimes I miss those early 20's. I chose and was prepared and planned for every situation I am in currently it is a lot of responsiblity but I am also out of my 20's, did I live it up in my 20's ABSOLUTELY!!! Don't be in a rush girls!

  • shayaddison By shayaddison
    10.13.11  

    I think it depends less on the age and more on the commitment levels & maturity of the individual people. Some people are just ready for marriage earlier while others need more time. I do think that if you spend lots of time "finding yourself" and becoming more independent that it then sometimes might be harder to mesh your personality & the way you do things with someone else when you do get married. But there are pros & cons to both sides.

  • CherishMePlease By CherishMePlease
    10.16.11  

    The best advice I've received so far: Do not mention divorce, or even contemplate it. Divorce should not be a part of your vocabulary after you say "I do." It doesn't matter who you are, a marriage will not last if you throw out the D-word every time you have a fight. But it also helps if you and your spouse have the same values/morals. My husband and I were together only a year and a half before we tied the knot. We knew we wanted to be with each other forever because we have the same morals. It just makes for an easier partnership when both of you are on the same page on most subjects.

  • cristimarashi By cristimarashi
    10.17.11  

    My husband and I got married at 24/25. We started dating when we were 19/20. I think closer to the mid twenties is probably ideal for marriage, but each couple is different. I know tons of people that got married in their early 20's that are still married and very happy. I think it depends on the unique situations of each couple.

  • wenzel2 By wenzel2
    10.19.11  

    My husband and I got married when I was 20 and he was 22. We've been together 7 years now and still going strong! However, I think that most young adults these days who are 18-24 are not ready to get married and that they are not mature enough to handle a marriage and everything that a healthy marriage entails. Seems like it takes longer for kids to mature in this day and age. :o)

  • sharman421 By sharman421
    01.05.12  

    Totally agree! Women need to wait. A lot of maturing goes on between the ages of 23 and 30! and for men it takes even longer usually!

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