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Couples Who Eat Together, Stay Together

Couples Who Eat Together, Stay Together

Did you ever think the question, “Pass the potatoes please?” could bring you and your partner closer together?  With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, it may be the perfect time to pull up a seat next to your loved one and share a nice meal.

A recent article from USA Today shares some ideas about how the simple act of cooking and eating together can help strengthen your relationship.  Romance novelist, Kate Douglas, talks about her first date she had with her husband at a Cuban restaurant and the fact that his willingness to try exotic new things helped solidify their relationship.  Douglas says that if a couple prepares and/or eats at least one meal together a day they will keep their relationship healthy for years to come.

Douglas believes that just by experiencing the taste of food together a couple can heighten the romance between them. Douglas says, “In sharing a bite of a sandwich, watching someone enjoy the taste of something, the sensual pleasure of taste can transfer over to the sensual pleasure between two people.”

It makes sense that eating together daily can have a positive effect on our relationships since it is the one time a day you can truly focus your attention on your spouse, share thoughts, or simply talk about what you did that day.  Some no-brainer tips to add a little romance to your dinner would be to turn the TV and cell phones off, light some candles, and set the table.  These simple details will help to drown out any distractions and put a spotlight on you and yours during meal time.

Some more tips on how to spice up a special romantic meal are to make a meal you normally wouldn’t prepare together, like a nice breakfast after a date with your partner the night before.  Having a private cocktail party for you and your partner could also be a fun thing to try.  Serve new cocktails you’ve never tried before and make finger foods you can feed to each other.  

Do you think preparing or eating at least one meal a day with your partner could strengthen your relationship?

What types of meal ideas do you have for Valentine’s Day or your next date night?

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  • amandastacy By amandastacy
    02.13.11  

    I do every night! I think spending time doing other things togther is just as important.

  • mcfnevada By mcfnevada
    02.14.11  

    Yes, eating together does strengthen the relationship. My boyfriend and I went to dinners and quick lunches on our busy days a couple times a week in the beginning of our relationship and continue today. Tuesday lunches became the norm as a special day for us to spend time together because during the weekday it's almost impossible to sit down and have relaxing "us time." It's romantic to me because we're always looking for somewhere new and have only been to the same place twice (just because it is SO good.) We bond over our palettes and often try new things. We share our foods and sometimes invite friends to join us. Meals in my relationship are a key point to success. It allows us one-on-one time and we both have decided during dinners to put away our smart phones and just focus on us. During the work week lunches that's a little harder to do but I highly recommend doing so in the evenings. Great post, thanks for sharing!

  • jennyjen1234 By jennyjen1234
    02.14.11  

    We do every night. It is a great chance to catch up and relax together.

  • ledwards By ledwards
    02.15.11  

    I think cooking and eating as a couple is alot of fun. But, what makes it enriching is the talking/communicating, shared ideas, and discussion between the two. Of course, cooking and eating can be fun, but without any communication during this time, it becomes dull. I speak from experience. My husband doesn't like to talk when we have dinner together (just short brief responses to my initiated comments or questions) so there isn't really any bonding going on. But, I think that any activity a couple does together (dancing, walking, cooking, traveling, riding in a car, etc.) that involves quality discussion, sharing of ideas, etc. will bring two people closer together and is critical to making meaningful relationships last.

  • tesa33 By tesa33
    02.15.11  

    i agree wholeheartedly! we try to eat dinner together every night with our children. it is nourishing to body and soul! if you are stuck for conversation, they have little boxes of conversation starter cards to get everyone talking that you can find...with boys this can be especially good. we want to have a close relationship for ourselves and our children for all our lives & i think every little way to foster this every day is so important.

  • dvschic By dvschic
    02.15.11  

    i'm the main cook in the house, but we almost always eat together, with the TV off too, so convo can happen.

  • wesill By wesill
    02.15.11  

    As long as everyone is home in my house, we always eat together. It is time for us to sit down and discuss our day and eat some good food along with it!

  • aly_313 By aly_313
    02.15.11  

    V-Day is our way date out but I've recently starting making meal plans each week. It's great because 1. saves money 2. we eat out less and 3. no more arguing over whose making dinner!

  • Von411 By Von411
    02.16.11  

    We always eat dinner together. Keeps us sane...

  • basilandcatnip By basilandcatnip
    02.17.11  

    Yes! ...and picking new recipes to try and grocery shop togther, especially exploring thr Farmer's Market... one meal makes for a lot of fun adventures and growth.

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