Snooping On Your Spouse

No wrong, wrong, wrong, I can't say it enough. If you feel the need to snoop on your partner you are already on the way out. Talk about your feelings and if it does not feel well leave with dignity. If my husband would do this, and believe me I do not cheat, I would have a big problem trusting him again. I find it sneaky and low.

When two people are in a committed relationship there should not be secrets. I've been married 30 yrs he has my passwords I have his do I use them sometimes....sometimes he tells me to check his accounts. The bottom line is this, if you have nothing to hide you have nothing to be so immature about. Trust is important if he was to start acting funny all of a sudden about me touching his things or going into his account that would raise a red flag!!

Wow! Where is the line? Is it also illegal to check my husbands snail mail? My employer checks my email. Call the police! If they claim it's b/c they have a contract from when they hired me-well what about a married couples vows? She should go to jail for breaking her vows.

Something had to have happened to cause him to be distrustful. I also always wonder why people are stupid enough to leave info. laying around that can get them in trouble. Must have sub-consciously wanted him to find out.

to see if *she was cheating, not he. lol

I think he had a right to check her email to see if he was cheating. They were married so I don't see anything wrong with it. My husband is free to check whatever he wants, I have nothing to hide. That is a ridiculous law, put real criminals in prison not a husband that checks his wifes email.

So, did he find out if she cheated? I agree with deenice22, it's a stupid law and needs to be rewritten for real criminals. Maybe he deserves a ticket, a misdemeanor, a small fine. IF SHE DID INDEED CHEAT, SHE DESERVES IT TOO!

5 years and a felony record?... come on people, where has common sense gone. OK, he was wrong so teach him a lesson... community service working with a non profit organization for a reasonable amount of time and a misdemeanor. Why is it that the time does not always fit the crime. Destroy a life over this, corporate thieves, identity thefts, murderers, and even rapists have gotten less or even nothing for their crimes.... spend this time and energy putting away true menaces to society not upstanding citizens who may have exercised bad judgement but without intent to defraud anyone or cause mental and physical harm.

That's just too much. What's next??

I believe that when it comes to a relationship between a spouse and or your minor children there must be exceptions! If the courts can hold you accountable for the actions of your family.....there has to be some protection for the innocent over the deceitful! A marriage constitutes "1" and if couples can't agree there should not be a marriage.....and too many individuals today do not take marriage as a life-long commitment. It appears that when one is unhappy they make themselves happy and walk away from their commitments. The courts have made it too easy for divorce to happen.

A bit much in my opinion - 5 years??

I think that when it comes to a spouse, there should be a acception with the privacy law.

I guess I come at it from the mindset that when you're married you're one....and they were still married in the eyes of the law. I think that a felony charge is a bit harsh. I agree with the other comments--there are other crimes/real crimes that money and time should be spent on. Not something like this.

There is always two sides to a story but both did wrong. Both should accept blame & move on. Just one taking the wrap is pretty lame I gotta say!!! But unfortunetely this is what our world has come to.

There sounds like there is more to this story. Besides, she already had filed for divorce. Why is everyone so quick to blame the woman?! Did you ever think that maybe he was a possessive jerk? And that's why she filed for divorce in the first place.