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Men Step Out On Successful Women

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Men Step Out On Successful Women
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Money is definitely not the only thing keeping men happy these days.  A new study reveals that men who are married to women who earn more than them are a lot more likely to cheat on their wives.  The research, presented at the American Sociological Association, shows that the smaller the paycheck  men bring home the more likely it is that they will be unfaithful to their spouse.  

A recent article from MSNBC reports that the study shows men are 5 times more likely than men who make equal pay to cheat on their wives if they are completely financially dependent on them.  One is reminded of the recent split between Jesse James and Sandra Bullock after allegations that he cheated.  It may not be a coincidence that he cheated just when Bullock was at the top of her career and bringing home more money than ever before.

So, why would these guys step out on their successful wives?  Conductor of the study, Christin Munsch, believes it may have something to do with men having insecurities about not fitting into the idea of what a man should be.  Munsch says, “Having multiple sexual partners may be an attempt to restore gender identity in response to these threats.  In other words, for men, sex (outside their relationship) may be an attempt to compensate for feelings of inadequacy with respect to gender identity.”

There are of course other theories to explain why men cheat on their high earning wives.  Christine Whelan, author of “Why Smart Men Marry Smart Women”, thinks it might just be something as simple as time spent together.  If a woman is making most or all of the money in a relationship, she’s probably not home that much which leaves their husbands with a lot of time to think about cheating.  

But there’s no need to worry if you’re the one bringing home the bacon.  The study also shows that over a six year period only 7 percent of all the men involved in the study cheated and somewhere around 3 percent of the women stepped out.  Other factors like religion, education, and relationship satisfaction entered into the outcomes as well.  

What do you think of the latest research showing men are more likely to cheat if their wives have a bigger paycheck than them?

Why do you think this is?

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  • iamcclot By iamcclot
    09.13.10  

    I believe the study. But like the first couple comments, it's just another excuse for men. I feel society tends to sympathize with a man who isn't more successful than the wife. I don't understand these people who are so sexist.

  • mkandmj By mkandmj
    09.08.10  

    I agree with redshoesnob42. They feel inadequate so they try to compensate by being fawned on by other women.

  • jsemrad By jsemrad
    08.31.10  

    I think that men cheat for a variety of reasons. Not all men cheat for the same reasons. I am a women and seen some of the women that men chose to be with and think my gosh what did he get himself into. The same goes for some women who chose some of the most god awful men. I think when you chose your mate you pretty much sign up for misery if you chose based on looks only. There is no perfect guy or girl out there, but I do believe there is Mr. Right for everyone. Sometimes we have just have to get through all those Mr. RightNow's to find him!

  • Supernovae By Supernovae
    08.27.10  

    I think a lot of these studies are scams meant to convince women to feel bad about themselves. Women *need* to do well financially, and they should not let social "science" skew them. It is extremely difficult to ever know something scientifically. Keep this in mind.

  • redshoesnob42 By redshoesnob42
    08.25.10  

    I totally belive the study. Men who feel inadequate in one area try to compensate in another. The popular culture tells men that they are "men" if they can attract many women. What I want to know is when are women going to stop sleeping with married men? Its hard for hubby to sleep around if women say NO!

  • Leisha By Leisha
    08.22.10  

    The article is silly. All men cheat. Its that simple, it does not matter how much or little their partner makes. Men are men and they cheat. Its unfortunate but true. It wont stop until we as a people wake up and realize what we are fighting against and we can agree to meet in the middle somewhere.

  • tablumenthal By tablumenthal
    08.20.10  

    I agree with the first comments. It all depends on the man, I don't think it has anything to do with his wife and her financial position.

  • hippychick By hippychick
    08.19.10  

    When a man cheats on a women he will leave her the same way he found her with somebody else.

  • newyearsknight By newyearsknight
    08.18.10  

    Because they can, the wife is away, the men will play!

  • BeautyBlush By BeautyBlush
    08.18.10  

    Women and men have the same desires and attractions, so men need to stop with the excuses and have some loyalty.

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