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A Heartbroken Mother Changes The Rules

A Heartbroken Mother Changes The Rules

Hearing that a loved one has been injured or killed is the most devastating news a person can ever receive.  One woman, Carmela Wiant, from Ohio has worked hard to make sure parents don’t have to suffer through the same experience she had when she received news of her son’s, David Christopher Money’s, death. 

According to Wiant’s website, David Money passed away after getting into a car accident from hydroplaning.  The Chaplain informed Wiant over the phone of her son’s death.  As traumatic as this information can be, Wiant thought there should be another, more humane, way of communicating this information to parents.  She wanted a chance to say goodbye or be with her son before he died.

A few months after her son’s death, Wiant started lobbying for a bill so that people could be informed of a loved one’s death in the proper way.  The Money-Burge Act (also known as “Next Of Kin” Bill), in memory of David Money and Steve Burge, allows people to add an emergency contact’s information right onto their driver’s license.  This addition to the license allows the first responders on the scene of an accident to contact the next of kin so they can be with the accident victim a lot sooner.

Wiant describes what she went through while lobbying for the bill on her website.  She wrote, “The process of doing this Bill sometimes was very emotional, very stressful and sometimes I just wanted to quit, but every time I would look at my Son’s picture I would say ?What if the tables were turned and they told him this way’?”

What do you think of the Money-Burge Act put in place by Carmela Wiant?

Do you think other states should follow Ohio’s lead and pass bills similar to this one?


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  • mommy_noel By mommy_noel

    i believe the initial idea is good but needs further thought. I understand in some cases that everything happens so quick where EMS have to choose wether to save the person in need or be "calling next of kin". i do agree next of kin info should be available but in computer for where when they input your DL # that next of kin is listed. also a checkbox on the back that says next of kin on file would be handy like they have organ donor. that way EMS can easily see if the box is checked to locate next of kin. if not checked then they would know that noone is on file. just a little more thought in the bill and I believe that it would work.

  • myangel82 By myangel82

    I am Carmela my son is 27 today Aug 10.. I spoke with a police officer and he was able to contact the family they went to the hospital to be with there loved one. An older couple put there doctors name as contact because of the meds they were on. They were in an accident and the doctor told them what they could and could not have and by the time they got to the Hospital there medical records were there. It is in a data base where LEADS can only use it for emergency situations. They will not have family come to the accident scene. It is so officers can go to there home. Thank you for the kind words and support with this. It should be in every state. Look at all the college kids outta of state. This girl was in the Hospital for 2 days before parents where notified because they did not know how to get a hold of them..

  • KateK3020 By KateK3020

    It is nice to be able to run someones drivers license and find a couple contacts but if in case they are unavailable, then there should be another way. It is a great theory and a heartfelt bill but we should still keep emergency contact information in our wallets and in our cars and maybe on our cell phones. If someone is desperate enough to help they will go through your phone and there are plenty of contacts who will know other contacts. This bill is good in theory and i am sorry it happened, but there are still so many other things we need to take into consideration.

  • jeanelley By jeanelley

    I think a brilliant idea has been born from a tragedy. Maybe there would be problems with contact numbers changing, but maybe it wouldn't have to be so permenant. Maybe it could be a number taped to the back of your DL. That would be something that is changeable. I personally have my mother listed in my phone as Mom-ICE, because I was told by a firefighter that they do check for that. It would definately help, not hinder, their jobs. Good luck to her...I hope she can help the world with this idea.

  • myangel82 By myangel82

    I have heard where it has helped an older couple. They had been in an accident and there emergency contact information they put as their doctor. When the police put in the drivers license it gave the doctors name and they called them by the time they got them to the ER room there medicals records were there for the ER doctors. So this is a great tool for everyone. Please keep passing it along. This should be in all states. The only people that can get this information is the police officers and it has to come from the leads program as long as someone has signed up for this and they can only get the information if it is medical emergency or an accident.

  • blake2020ca By blake2020ca

    I think it is an amazing idea and other states for sure should be using it. On a side note, if you put your emergency contact into your cell phone under the listing Emergency Contact most police/first responders will look and call that number. I have my husband listed int here under Emergency Contact and under his own name.

  • UCILikeFrogs By UCILikeFrogs

    I think that this is a great idea.Good for her.

  • iritsoutherngirl By iritsoutherngirl

    I'm grateful that Carmela Wiant came up with this idea. It's very, very sad that she had to go through the loss of her son though.

  • myangel82 By myangel82

    I would love to see it in other states. If you know of anyone that went through this type of experience I would sure help them get this in there state. I have called many but not living in that state it is not as easy. God bless all of you for you comments I really miss my David especially Hi mom with that big beautiful smile and I love you mom with his great big hug. I love you David.

  • Alyssarae92293 By Alyssarae92293

    a loss of a child is awful.

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