As a mom of an adult son and of one son moving in to adulthood, I understand what it is like to butt heads on occasion and for them to find us as parents annoying. If I could write a letter to any son finding it hard to tolerate or respect their parents it would go something like this:
I just wanted to send you a message since we have not spoken in person in a while.
I am very proud of the life you have built for yourself and your beautiful family. I am proud of the accomplishments you have achieved and hope that you will continue to grow as a loving father, husband, and most importantly a son and a brother.
I have learned in life that the most important thing is to be there to support and love each other no matter what. Even though family members sometimes may not meet the expectations you have set for yourself, please remember that you get one chance in life.
Learn to be caring, loving, tolerant and patient as you continue to grow. Sometimes it is best just to bite your tongue, smile and move forward. When it comes to flaring tempers, nothing is accomplished unless one decides to give in. Understanding what it is to be mature and not always having the need to be right at every turn will build a closer bond with your parents and in the long run with your own children. They learn how to respect by watching you. Trust me, they watch every move and pick up on every negative there is to pick up on.
Please note I am not condemning you for any decision you have made or will make. I am just coming to you with the experience of losing the most important people in my life.
You still have both of your parents, treat them with the respect and love that you would want from your children as they grow and move on. At times it can be very lonely and I would give anything if I could just have one more day with my mom and dad to express how grateful I am and how much I love them no matter what mistakes they might have made. They did the best they knew how and I truly appreciate the time (although short) I had with them.
We love you very much and will always be here for you with open arms.
Love, Mom and Dad