When your mailbox becomes inundated with wedding invitations from friends and family, planning mini-vacations around these momentous occasions can become both time consuming and expensive. Though we don’t want to let anyone down on their big day, attending multiple weddings in one year can become next to impossible if you’re trying to stick to a budget.
A recent CNN report highlights the way these types of obligations can really eat up your vacation time and finances. Attending weddings can get even pricier for guests when more and more couples are choosing destination bachelorette parties and weddings. Whether it be a weekend in Vegas with the girls or a wedding in Jamaica, this type of travel can be both fun and financially draining.
But how do you say no when your close friends and family are counting on you to be there? The truth is many of us don’t say no, we just grin and bare it paying for it (usually on high interest credit cards) in the end. Hotwire recently released a survey revealing that 41% of U.S. adults use most of their vacation budgets on obligation travel to weddings, holiday gatherings, and reunions.
Sociologist Jeffrey Alexander explains why we probably have such a hard time saying no to friends even if it is a financial burden to attend their weddings. Alexander explains, “On the one hand, doing these rituals is a way of showing that you're not a materialistic person and that you value your close friendships. At the same time, we do live in the economic world. I think that is a kind of test. If you invite somebody and they don't come, then they're not willing to put their money where their mouth is. They're not showing that they actually care about you."
Are the majority of your vacation days spent on obligation travel?
Do you often find yourself invited to more weddings and family reunions than you can afford? How do you politely say no when you just can’t afford the travel?