Wedding Gift Wars: Should Guests Get Their Gifts Back if a Marriage Fails?

By drodriguez Mar 10, 2012

For couples like Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries, who spent a longer time planning their lavish wedding than actually being married, deciding what to do with the wedding gifts has probably been difficult. TMZ recently revealed Kim K’s solution; she has doubled the value of her wedding gifts which she estimates to be about $100,000 worth and made a large donation in her guests’ honor.

This may seem like an acceptable solution to some but to others, like Kim K’s ex-hubby Kris Humphries, they believe the right thing would have been to return all of the gifts on top of making a donation. And with their separation announced months ago, some feel Kardashian has taken her sweet time in dealing with the issue of her wedding gifts.

With reports of Kris Humphries’ disapproval over Kim’s handling of the gifts, one has to question why he wasn’t more involved in the decision. And there is also the question of why he hasn’t returned personal gifts he received, like a $5,000 gift card Kim Kardashian’s friend Jonathan Cheban says he gave Humphries.

Do you think Kim Kardashian’s decision to make a donation in her guests’ honor in lieu of returning wedding gifts is the right thing to do?

And do you think Kris Humphries has the right to show his disapproval or should he have taken a more active role in her decision?

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by GinaLola | ELK GROVE, CA

Mar 20, 2012

No, a gift is a gift. I say keep them.

by basilandcatnip | GARLAND, TX

Mar 15, 2012

This was a topic of conversation on The Talk a few weeks back. One host made the comment that etiquette says you have 1 yr from the wedding date to give a gift. ...maybe smart thinking in some cases.

by SpeakingForYou | JONESBORO, AR

Mar 14, 2012

The marriage was very short.....I think she should return the gifts. If the giver tells her to keep it, at least she would feel good about offering to return it. What about a second marriage......does the giver buy another gift?

by sunnydayys | San Jose, CA

Mar 13, 2012

A gift is a gift. Even in this case, I would say no.

by MrsA2012 | BOCA RATON, FL

Mar 13, 2012

I with you, Im over this whole Kardashian thing, fad, whatever you want to call it.

by Hermster | rochester hills, MI

Mar 12, 2012

For the amount of time they were married give the gifts back.

by agaphmou | ASTORIA, NY

Mar 12, 2012

I don't know whether or not they should be returned,but I'm swaying towards yes.Another point I want to make is that why should she get all the gifts?! She didn't marry herself! Well in this case I guess she did because this wedding was a sham ,a money-making scam.All the kardashians can go to heck.I also hope that these guests who gave them gifts never go to any other their weddings again

by MadHatter | Whitestone , NY

Mar 12, 2012

if the marriage was as short as 2 months, then yes i do believe that they should return the gifts...

by msfriendly | MONROE, WI

Mar 12, 2012

That's up to the couple to decide what to do. The gift-giver should not expect it to be returned...it was a gift.

by meclark92 | Baltimore, MD

Mar 12, 2012

Yeah, I'd say since wedding etiquette about giving wedding gifts dictates that you should give your gift to the couple within a year, I think that if the marriage ends within a year, the couple should give the gifts back. I think Humphries' should have had a more active role. He should have control over half of the gifts and should be able to send back his half to guests. It's all just a petty act to get ratings and attention.

by shawndra | UNION, WA

Mar 12, 2012

Give them back,Maybe if you where married more than a minute you could keep them,Give them back,It's rude and bad manners to keep them,I am sure some of those gifts where personnel on his side and should be returned,How would you like a family heirloom that was passed down to you as a wedding gift be kept by a person who was married to another for just a few days,Give the stuff back.

by notimegirl | DUNWOODY, GA

Mar 12, 2012

All gifts should be returned. The chartitable contribution only benefitted Ms. Kardashian--not her guests as she is the one to take the tax deduction. Very tacky to not return them immediately.

by donna42mass | SPRING HILL, FL

Mar 12, 2012

In this case , yes.

by yankeered | BALLSTON SPA, NY

Mar 12, 2012

Emily Post says "If a marriage ends soon after the wedding, the couple should send back any gifts that haven't been opened yet"

by krystlbear | GREEN CV SPGS, FL

Mar 12, 2012

No...it' a gift.