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Thoughts About Interracial Love

Yolanda Shoshana By Yolanda Shoshana 12.10.11
Thoughts About Interracial Love
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For some reason, for a few days I found myself watching the bad talk shows: Maury and Jerry Springer. It was like watching a train wreck but being very entertained. What I noticed during these crazy episodes was that most of the baby mama drama came from interracial couples. While surely most people know these two talk shows are nothing but a hot mess, it still does not prove to be not a good look for interracial love.

Being a girl who doesn't mind dating a cute white boy, it got me to pondering about interracial love. Why is interracial love still so controversial? Yes, it has gotten a little easier, but there seems to be unresolved hostility. The Kardashian sisters were accused of using black sports players to build their careers, while in fact most of the players they have dated where not that famous until they started dating a Kardashian. Whoopi Goldberg was criticized for years about only dating white men; her comment was "I go out with who asks me out.

While some black women have decided to only date black men, it seems there is a new interest in the opportunity to explore men of other races. While interracial dating will not be for everyone, the percentage of black women being unmarried is 41%. Why should a beautiful sister sit at home waiting? There is a long list of beautiful interracial couples that have lasted: Iman and David Bowie, Princess Angela of Liechtenstein and Prince Maximilian of Liechtenstein, Sir Michael Caine and Shakira Baksh Caine, Robin Thicke and Paula Patton. The list goes on and on. Also note that the interracial couple, The Lovings, who fought the Supreme Court to legalize interracial marriage in America, were married until Richard Loving's death.

My friends and I always joke that hip hop may have changed the love game. Some white guys who never would have approached a black woman are now happy to show that he is indeed down with the brown. That is not to say that interracial dating does not have pros and cons. The question for you to ask yourself is what matters the most when it comes to finding the person you want to spend your life with. It is a question that has nothing to do with race, but about your goals, morals, dreams, and desires.

If you are on the fence about dating someone from another race, always follow your heart. There is a saying that will last till the end of time "everything is the same in the dark".

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  • cmartin64 By cmartin64
    01.12.12  

    My thoughts are God made everyone of us no matter what color or background. He intended for each one of us to get along with one another. It someone of a different race sparks you interest, go for it. You are the one who has to make it work and it you both keep JESUS in the mist of things, it will work out. They might be a different color but they are just as human as you are.

  • MelissaMarie1986 By MelissaMarie1986
    01.03.12  

    I am in an interracial relationship and have been in it for almost four years. I am black and he is white. We recently became engaged and I have never been happier with my personal life. I have dated black guys and Hispanic guys before. I think the most important thing is what is on the inside. There are ignorant people off all races who judge any type of interracial relationships. The most important thing, at least to me, is to appreciate the love you have with someone no matter what the "outside package" looks like.

  • LISA2699 By LISA2699
    12.21.11  

    I don't watch day time television too often, so I don't know about the baby mama drama, but I still found this topic interesting. I think that the world is changing every day around us and though there are still people who hold on to the thoughts of "separate but equal" or "keep to your own" there are far too many people who are accepting and open to change. I'm black and my husband is white. He had never dated a black girl before we met, but I have always been an equal opportunity dater. As far as the black women who think that white guys may not be interested in them, well they think the same thing. I hate to say it, but if you are on the fence about dating someone outside of your race, then you need to work out your issues and then try to meet someone. The most important part of a person is who they are, not what their ethnicity is. Once you let go of whatever issues you have and just look at people for who they are, then race means nothing.

  • Easy2Save By Easy2Save
    12.19.11  

    About those talk shows most people want to watch the train wreck and not the safe stop at the train station. lol I have no problem with interracial couples but we still have a lot of people that for whatever reason cannot get past skin color. You miss out on a lot of great relationships when you judge people without taking the time to get to know them. This has made me remember my friend James from junior high school he is black and I am white he was such a sweetheart we had some puppy love going on. Go ahead and ask those guys out on a date if you are really interested in them all they can do is say no and I bet they will say yes!

  • debbwalk By debbwalk
    12.16.11  

    Although I love the idea of interracial dating, I think that it's a bit one sided. I'm an African american women, and find that while there are a lot of african american men dating those of other ethnicities, it doesn't happen as often for african american women. I would LOVE to date other races. Where are you guys! :-)

  • gwanita By gwanita
    12.13.11  

    I love interracial love baby!!!! my husband is black i am white and our kids are absolutley beautiful! we not only share children together but have children from previous relationships as well who are also a blended mix of beauty they are black and native...if you are attracted to the other peron and you work well together and make each other happy then who cares the color of the skin your in and everyone else can kiss my .... :))) xoxo

  • tinamyers By tinamyers
    12.12.11  

    I am God created variety, for if the world was just one race, we would be really borring. No matter what our race is, we are all equal.

  • MrsA2012 By MrsA2012
    12.12.11  

    Underneath it ALL we are ALL the same color!

  • b_oloo2008 By b_oloo2008
    12.12.11  

    I think a lot of what the problem is what other people think. My husband is black and I am white. I heard so many negative comments about what our children will look like or what other people think of interracial marriages and it just disgusts me. It doesn't bother me one bit that our children will be different from others or what other people think of us. We are happy and we love each other. That is what matters to me.

  • Lindse94 By Lindse94
    12.11.11  

    Well said! I have seen changes in the past ten years of more acceptance to others dating outside their race.

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