You've likely heard people talk about training for a marathon or perhaps even on-the-job training, but have you ever heard of training a baby to sleep?
Rest assured, you can and should expect your baby to acquire the skill of sleeping through the night, but rarely does that happen without parental training. While the On Becoming Babywise best-selling book is one of the most respected resources on this topic and a key to understanding sleep training methods, we can explore some of its most important infant sleep training techniques right here.
If your newborn is not sleeping, one of the worst assumptions you can make is that it’s only a sleep issue. The truth is, if you want to increase the likelihood of continuous nighttime sleep, a parent-guided “feed-wake-sleep” routine is essential.
Let me be clear, the key to baby sleep training, and ultimately , lies in the order of these three daytime activities: first comes feeding time, followed by wake time, and then nap time.
The sequence of these three activities repeats itself throughout the day to create gentle sleep training. The more consistent the routine, the more quickly a baby learns to adapt to the sleep training methods and organize his feed-wake-sleep rhythms. Established rhythms lead to continuous nighttime sleep.
You too can successfully establish these rhythms by putting into place the following five sleep training methods:
Sleep Training Principle One
Understand the principle of time variation. While the length of each feed-wake-sleep cycle during the early weeks of life remains fairly consistent, eventually each cycle will take on its own unique features.
Sleep Training Principle Two
Understand the principle of capacity and ability: a mother cannot arbitrarily decide to drop a feeding or adjust a naptime, unless the baby has the physical capacity and ability to make the adjustment.
Sleep Training Principle Three
Understand the first-last feeding principle. When adjusting a baby’s routine, the first feeding of the day is always strategic. Without a consistent time set for the first morning feeding, a baby may feed every 3 hours, but each day’s routine will be different. that isn’t good for baby or mom.
While there can be some flexibility to this first feeding time, try to keep it within a 20-minute time frame. Remember, flexibility comes after a routine is established. Mom will come to appreciate the consistency of time because she can plan her day around her baby’s feeding and naptime needs.
Sleep Training Principle Four
Understand the principle of individuality among children. All babies will experience the same cycles and merging of schedules as they grow, but they will not necessarily experience them at the same time.
Sleep Training Principle Five
Understand the principle of two steps forward and one step back. While some feed-wake-sleep schedule merges happen suddenly and take only a day to become a new pattern, most merges take four to six days before a new normal is established.
It’s important to keep some milestones in mind for the first few weeks of sleep training a newborn. During the first two weeks of life, your baby will not have a distinct waketime apart from his feeding time. Your baby’s feeding time is his waketime, because that’s all a newborn can handle before sleep overtakes his little body.
Usually by weeks two or three, most babies fall into a predictable feed-wake-sleep routine. When this happens, you and your baby have arrived at another level of success. Once you make it through those first couple of weeks filled with new experiences, life begins to settle in as your baby’s routine takes shape.
In the end, Babywise babies are characterized by contentment, healthy growth, and optimal alertness. The best and safest way to help your little one fall asleep and stay asleep is the natural way. Successful baby sleep training relies upon you as a parent confidently establishing a basic routine to promote restful sleep. These are the babies who truly exude happiness—which after all, is tied back to being well-rested and one of the hallmarks of Babywise sleep training.
For more information on baby sleep training, visit https://babywise.life/.
"How to teach a baby to fall asleep alone" by Susan Urban is brilliant! I'm surprised that I haven't heard of it before.
A great article that explains the idea of sleep training. How do you go about getting a baby who is wanting to sleep more during the day than at night to get switched around?
It seems like establishing a consistent FIRST feeding of the day is much easier than getting a newborn on a consistent LAST feeding of the day. Newborns seem to want to eat more in the evening and getting them to bed "on time" is challenging. How can I can my baby to go to bed around the same time at night?
The feed-wake-sleep cycle works wonders! All 3 of our boys were trained with this method. With our first,we were slow to use it because I didn't feel up to getting MYSELF on a schedule, let alone a baby. After a few months, I was desperate for a routine so I decided to give it a shot. Within DAYS, he was on a consistent schedule. Of course, this is not to say there were never days that it was thrown off- he got sick, had hard days, or just wouldn't settle down. For the most part though, each day is the same regarding naps and bedtime. Kids thrive on routines. We're creatures of habit, so why would we expect our little ones to be any different? I recommend this method to anyone looking for a healthy routine for Baby, however, I do recall having trouble knowing when they were ready to drop a feeding or nap, especially because in the first year they go from 5-6 naps/day to 2. What is the best way to understand when those transitions should happen and what are some cues?
Sometimes it?s worth to notice the experience of other parents. Thanks to you SidJen I had a chance to read ?How to teach a baby to fall asleep alone? guide by Susan Urban. The guide showed me very easy way to teach my LO to fall asleep alone without rocking. I thought that sleep training is a big drama and I?m not a mom who does well with crying so I was always afraid to do it. Now I know it?s not that bad 🙂 Thanks Kate for your lovely blog 🙂
I know there?s a lot of methods and authors and that the subject isn't the easiest one but my wife and I sleep trained our two kids with the same guide "How to teach a baby to fall asleep alone" by Susan Urban and it just went great. Step by step instructions on what to do and how to do it. What convinced us was the fact that the method is without CIO and that this guide is in a nutshell so it's short. In an hour we knew how to deal with the problem. After a few days our both kids were able to fall asleep on their own (before only rocking), they stopped waking up every hour to eat at night and they started to nap longer (before training they both slept like 15 minutes and that was it - they were exhausted all day). So the method described in this guide seems to works on anything related to sleeping. I found the guide on I guess the author's website: www.parental-love.com We tried it so we can really recommend it.