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Motherhood and Makeup: What's Your Take

Motherhood and Makeup: What's Your Take

Motherhood has changed me in many ways, but one thing it’s certainly done is increase the dark circles under my eyes. I know, I know, it’s a small price to pay for the joy my daughter brings me, but I can’t say that I love the tired-exhausted look they give me in the morning. So after lots of trial-and-error I’ve found a great concealer that I love and I never leave the house without it.

In addition to the concealer, I usually put on some mascara and blush. If I’m really getting serious, I’ll put on the Laura Mercier tinted moisturizer, which makes my face look like I’ve been tanning in my back yard instead of staying up late catching up on work the night before. I might throw on some lipstick later in the day, but most of the time, that’s my entire makeup routine, which I think is pretty quick and light.

For me, putting on a little makeup in the morning is a good way to pick myself up and get ready for the day. If I look better, I feel better, period. So I find it surprising when I hear from other moms that since they’ve had kids they’ve stopped wearing makeup. Some say they don’t have the time, which I find hard to believe, but others simply say that they’ve stopped caring as much.

"If I look better, I feel better, period."

I think that’s really sad. Not the makeup part but the part of moms not investing time in themselves. Believe me, I know how hard this is. You know this manicure I was going to get a few weekends ago? Didn’t make it because it was a sunny day and I ended up playing with my daughter in the backyard instead. But I think we have to be reminded to not give up on ourselves as women after we become moms, to remember that it’s important to feel good and take care of ourselves, whether it means putting on a little concealer, getting to the gym, or taking an afternoon off.

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  • marid144 By marid144
    09.03.09  

    I agree 100% with Nataly. I have two wonderful little boys that I am proud of and love. Sometime, and I think all mothers will agree, after I gave birth I went into mommy mode and stayed in mommy mode even after my second child was born. My life was dedicated to these two little defenseless boys. I felt it my obligation to look after them. I tried to pamper myself by putting on some fragrance. Then, oneday, I decided that before the boys woke up I would try on some makeup. Not to heavy but just enough to hide the dark circles around my eyes and to add color to my cheeks. I was amazed at how that made me feel. It was a rare moment for me. What can I say, being a mom is a full time job, it's time that we make time to treat ourselves. That's not being selfish, that's just saying "I love you" to the woman who keeps the house together!

  • amymaow By amymaow
    09.03.09  

    I do not wear makeup every day (i'm not wearing a stitch right now as a matter of fact) and it's for a number of reasons. I'm a busy mom, makeup is expensive so if I don't have to use it it's not a waste of money, plus I tend to break out a lot so letting my skin breathe without it every now and then helps. It's not that I don't care about myself, it's just that there are good days and there are bad days to wear makeup. I definetly pick and choose and recognize those on and off days. However, when I do put it on, my husband is so freaking happy, you would have thought he just found a hundred dollar bill on the ground. He can't stop telling me how pretty I look. That's a huge bonus of wearing it!

  • Dare2BDifferent By Dare2BDifferent
    09.04.09  

    I totally agree, Nataly. I wear makeup every day. I do it for me. I also feel better if I believe I look better. Also, it's rather nice every morning to hear my daughters tell me that I look beautiful. And my husband really takes notice. I never wear the same "look" twice for my makeup. I experiment with color daily. I used to almost never wear makeup, even before I became a mother. I just didn't want to put in the time or effort. I found some great tutorials on makeup application on Youtube about 2 months ago, and ever since I've been a daily wearer. Honestly, I didn't know how to do my makeup prior to finding those tutorials.

  • VBARRERA By VBARRERA
    09.05.09  

    Im a working mother of twins and I have to say they changed my life, I dont worry much about my self. Normally I put my hair in a bun and wear little mascara. My husband hates it and he will say, Man what happend to the sexy Veronica I met years ago, and normally I respond , im a mom now and my kids come first. When we have our night out yes I dress up and he loves it.

  • countrycouponclipper By countrycouponclipper
    09.05.09  

    I feel better when I put on make up even if its just a little mascara, blush and lip gloss I believe when you look better you feel better, Im a mom of two boys and when I get my makeup they tell me momma you look beautiful and I love it

  • marylynn76 By marylynn76
    09.05.09  

    I agree with you about putting makeup on every morning can make a difference in the way you feel. I began being a stay-at-home mom in 2006 and started out not caring if I put on makeup and noticed a difference about how I felt in the early morning. I was sluggish and it seemed like my dark circles took over. I ahve been looking for a great concealer to cover them up and will try the one you suggested.

  • MrsMichelle By MrsMichelle
    09.05.09  

    I have phases in my life where I wear makeup and where I don't... or where I just do a little or whathaveyou. I've definitely found that in general, when I take the effort to take care of myself -- including putting on makeup -- I'm happier and more productive. And that counts for a lot when you're a busy mom. But ummm yeah there are definitely days that I don't manage to get any makeup on. And those are the days my energy just isn't there. Then again -- how much of it is chicken and egg, I wonder

  • Trynewthings By Trynewthings
    09.06.09  

    A Mother to be is beautiful with or without makeup. We have a glow that comes naturally. As for wearing makeup when expecting, why not. It just enhances our beauty.

  • lmedcalf By lmedcalf
    09.06.09  

    I think wearing makeup has become a societal expectation. We don't look like what we really look like any more. Break free! I do all weekend every weekend. While I may not be comfortable during the week at work, I take every opportunity to let my skin breathe and save time from making up my face. I shop, I go to lunch, I even go out to eat in the evenings. It's liberating, and luckily, my husband tells me I'm beautiful and he prefers me this way!

  • dlhlrh1 By dlhlrh1
    09.06.09  

    I love to wear makeup. I feel so much better when I take the time to put my makeup on. There are times on the week end or the summer when I am tanned that I don't, but usually I have my makeup on. I am proud of my family we work hard and play hard together so looking your best is a good thing.

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