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Marrying a Younger Man May Shorten Your Life

Marrying a Younger Man May Shorten Your Life

For those who believe marrying a younger man will keep them young and energetic for longer may want to think again.  A new study shows that women who marry younger men have a shorter life expectancy than those who stick with men their own age.  Strangely, it has been proven in the past that the opposite is true for men who marry younger women.

The new study coming out of the Max Planck Institute for Demographic Research in Germany is reported about on CBS News.  For years, many have assumed that women who marry men that are at least 7 - 9 years younger than them would have a longer life expectancy, in part because of the supposed psychological benefits of having a younger spouse. 

It has also been assumed that since the younger man could provide care for the older woman in old age that she should, in turn, live longer than a woman whose spouse may have passed away or is also suffering from health issues.  All of this has been proven to be the reason older men with younger spouses live longer.

Marriage itself has been proven to extend life expectancy of both men and women.  But when a woman is married to a man considerably younger than she is, her mortality risk increases by 20 percent.  However, when an older man marries a younger woman, his mortality risk decreases by 11 percent.  The study found that anytime a woman married a man with a large age gap, whether they be younger or older, the woman's life expectancy went down.  The largest risk is for the older women with younger men couples.  Women live longest when they are married to a man the same age as they are.

So why are women's lives shortened from marrying a younger man?  It is being theorized that when a woman marries a differently-aged man she suffers an increased stress level for not fitting in with society's norm and may have less of a support group surrounding her because of this.

What do you think of the study showing that women who marry younger men have a shorter life expectancy?

What do you think is the reason for this?

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  • jemappel By jemappel
    05.17.10  

    This is interesting and surprising. I say just marry whomever you love and let God sort out the rest of it.

  • oldbluepearl By oldbluepearl
    05.17.10  

    I agree. We're all going to die someday. Be with who you love until that day comes, regardless of age/ethnicity/gender/social status, etc... none of that matters in love.

  • msfriendly By msfriendly
    05.17.10  

    Maybe...but what a life it was! LOL!

  • lilschanster11 By lilschanster11
    05.17.10  

    Wow, this is amazing. Kinda surprising.. and very, very interesting.

  • roseblossom22 By roseblossom22
    05.17.10  

    wow this is interesting it may be true or not but if they love them it really don't matter what people think so don't stress about it . :)

  • tori20 By tori20
    05.17.10  

    Interesting study. However I have a third example: I know of a couple that look the same age, yet she is older. So what is the expectancy if he is younger, but acts and looks much older?

  • adegothseir By adegothseir
    05.17.10  

    I love older men so I wouldn't know.

  • cybrown551 By cybrown551
    05.18.10  

    I think the reason that women live a shorter life while married to a younger man is because of the competition and worry that she has with him being attracted to younger women. And trying to keep up with a younger man and stay attractive for him causes insecurities. And those insecurities leads to stress and health problems.

  • Devanna By Devanna
    05.18.10  

    I am 36 yrs old and my fiance is 29 yrs old. We have been dating for 5 yrs. I have been married in the past and I can honestly say, This young guy has treated me better than any man my own age.

  • mehovic By mehovic
    05.18.10  

    I agree i thik as long as you confident in your relatioship and self...age should not matter

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