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Couples Who Text Together May Not Stay Together

Couples Who Text Together May Not Stay Together

As it turns out, the text message may not be the quickest way to the heart. Even though you may be hearing a constant ping from your friend’s phone, a new study reveals couples who text each other more often aren’t necessarily communicating so well.

Time reports about the new study published in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy that reveals how texting habits can predict the solidity of a relationship. Researchers surveyed men and women who text and are also involved in serious relationships, engaged, or married.

The male participants who text their partners more frequently report a lower quality relationship whereas women who text more feel better connected to their mate.

Researchers believe men who text more believe their relationship is in trouble because they are replacing face time with the less intimate text message as a way to create some distance. Women on the other hand are all about working out problems via text and may take to their smartphones more frequently when trying to iron out the wrinkles in their relationship.

But keeping conflict off our phones and dealing with problems face to face may be the key to keeping couples happy. Participants who generally send “loving messages” to their partner report feeling more satisfied with their relationships.

How often do you and you partner text each other?

When arguing with your partner, do you tend to try and work things out via text message?
 

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  • ninap18 By ninap18
    01.05.14  

    Definitely agree that less texting=better relationship Actually scratch that, as long as you see each other more and talk about most of your important topics face to face, I think it's fine. Then again, long distance relationships have been shown to work to strengthen the relationship once the two can meet since it add more value to face time hmm...

  • browneyedgir1 By browneyedgir1
    01.31.14  

    Yes I agree that texting, email or anything other than face to face conversation can make a relationship of any kind less healthy, things can be misunderstood through other ways causing conflict because they only had words to go off, when face to face conversations happen they have body language tone of voice and other things to help them understand what the other person is trying to convey.

  • Mackster By Mackster
    02.02.14  

    Thank goodness my husband and I have not fallen into the texting trap. We still call each several times a day. Typically we only send a text when we can't answer, to say, "In a meeting", "On the phone" and the occasional "Thinking about you", "Miss you", "Love you".

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