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A Great Place For Working Moms

A Great Place For Working Moms

SheSpeaks recently had the opportunity to interview successful working mom, Marisa Thalberg.  On top of holding the position of Vice President of Global Online Marketing for Estee Lauder Companies and being a mother of two, Marisa Thalberg is the founder of a unique website dedicated to working moms, ExecutiveMoms.com.  During the interview, Marisa Thalberg offered advice to working moms and let us in on how ExecutiveMoms.com provides a fabulous service to working moms.

Q. What made you want to start ExecutiveMoms.com?

A.  Executive Moms was born out of a personal need, which arose soon after I became a mother for the first time.  I knew I was going to be returning to work, but during my maternity leave I attended a couple of "Mommy and Me" groups and was stunned to find so few women who said they were doing the same.  I had such a need then to surround myself with other women like me to whom I could relate, and from whom I could learn and be inspired.  As I returned to work I looked around for an organization or group that could provide this sense of connection to other "fabulous" working moms.  Women I would want to be around no matter what.  When it became evident that, even in New York, this bastion of work life, no such thing existed... I decided to give birth again: to Executive Moms.

Q.  Could you tell us a little bit about how and why the Executive Moms community works?

A.  Executive Moms works because it is predicated around a very simple but powerful insight: that there are a ton of women who are accomplished, confident and in fact generally satisfied with their lives both as professionals and mothers-- but can simply feel that much more equipped to thrive if given a sense of connection to other women like themselves, along with some smart, helpful thoughts or resources that really resonate to all her points of interest as a multifaceted woman.  That insight drives everything we do.  Executive Moms also has an interesting dichotomy of being both exclusive and inclusive at the same time; it thus somehow self-selects a very special group of women who everyday debunk all the negative mythology that so wrongly exists about working moms.  It is indeed an amazing community.

Q.  Were there any obstacles you had to overcome before launching Executive Moms in 2002?

A.  My own fear over determining to address my working mother questions by essentially giving myself a second career!  I have in fact remained a true executive mom myself; having continued with a VERY full-time corporate career throughout managing Executive Moms on the side.  Oh, and BEING a mother.  I now have two amazing daughters.  So there continues to be ongoing fear or self-recrimination about not doing more-- but I also recognize how much has been accomplished since I started this.

Q.  Any advice for new mothers attempting to juggle a career and children?  How have you made it work?

A.  I have really come to believe that we all have to come up with our own, personal mix (I prefer this to "balance") that is a series of
prioritizations and compromises that work for YOU and your family alone. There is no one formula, and even your own mix has to be highly mutable. One of the things we learned from our audience early on is how much women like us want and need "flexibility" -- but when pressed on what that ideally means, it was less about getting a part-time schedule than just knowing you have the ability to scoot out from work for a pediatrician appointment or school play when needed without worrying about repercussions.  This to me really speaks to how we strive to make it all work.  Another insight: a vast majority of the women in our audience said they identify with the adage, "if you want something done, give it to a busy person."  I think in terms of the juggle, it helps if you too identify with this adage, and might even thrive on keeping a bunch of balls in the air at the same time.  Lastly, my real advice on this (though at times easier said than done) is to recognize that as a mother with a career, you are in fact setting a wonderful role model or your children, that you are in fact the norm across cultures and civilizations.  It’s just important to make the time with your family count, and then to judge yourself simply by looking at your generally terrific, adaptive children in order to realize you are doing a pretty good job at this.  Then banish any lingering guilt.  P.S. Remember that Chinese takeout covers every major food group quite well.

Q.  Do you feel the recession has had an effect on your community of Executive Moms?  Any trends that you have noticed overall?

A.  I will be better able to answer that after our big spring event in New York City on April 21st where we are tackling some of the biggest issues of working motherhood, refiltered through the lens of 2009, aided by a stellar panel of experts and moderated by "Nightline’s" Cynthia McFadden.  (All working moms are invited to this, incidentally; simply visit www.executivemoms.com and secure your reservation in advance).  However, thus far, I see women networking with each other a little more... and also being even more supportive and empathic.   It’s an extremely challenging and stressful time for all of us, clearly.

Q.  Can you share any thoughts on what is in store for the future of ExecutiveMoms.com?

I hope what is in store is that Executive Moms will continue to gain awareness and thereby grow our audience, and specifically our online
Community, as it remains a very unique resource for an audience of women who are as influential and significant as they have been surprisingly underserved.


Does www.ExecutiveMoms.com sound like a website you might like to check out?

Do you have any secrets to share about juggling career and children successfully?

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  • jessicamac By jessicamac
    03.07.09  

    Wow! I'm inspired to hear about a woman juggling career, family AND a side project!

  • am_i_lost By am_i_lost
    03.08.09  

    I wasn't an executive or anything close but at the age of 22 I had a 2 1/2 and 1 1/2 year old daughters and had just went threw a divorce. I had stayed at home with them up until this point and now had to start working. It would have been nice to have had some type of support group or something. It was no easy task. I think it's wonderful what Marisa is doing!

  • steffie By steffie
    03.08.09  

    I love this quote, "if you want something done, give it to a busy person." So, true. Great interview. Thanks!

  • mafayro By mafayro
    03.08.09  

    Thanks for the kind feedback. Would love to see any and all of you on www.executivemoms.com! -- Marisa Thalberg

  • selinajane By selinajane
    03.09.09  

    Totally identify... I am an artist, writer, and have my own business. I have 2 four year old twin girls... It gets hectic!! Sometimes I feel alone because of my situation. Sometimes I think I am crazy for taking on as much as I do, but I honestly can't help it. LOL!!

  • myprecious1 By myprecious1
    03.10.09  

    I and my husband both have businesses, totaling 3 and I work outside of the home with a full-time job and we have a 4 year-old daughter and a 6 year-old son. I decided that it takes making a sacrifice, maybe staying up a little extra late to get things done after homework, dinner, household chores and spending quality time. It can be done.

  • angelavcampbell By angelavcampbell
    03.11.09  

    It is comforting to know that there are other mom's who have found balance with career, family, volunteerism and other interests in the way I have. I personally found the feature article, "How to Be a Class Mom From the Office" on ExecutiveMoms.com quite relevant and shared it with all of my twitter friends, many of whom are entrepreneurs and "career mommies" who put their families first as I do.

  • okmom23 By okmom23
    03.12.09  

    As a native New Yorker, I am thrilled to have a connection to the City!

  • superhappygo By superhappygo
    03.17.09  

    I am relieved that there are other women out there that need to have people around them who are working and mommy-ing. Now if only there were a website out there for executive "single" moms. Maybe I should start that one! That is the website I would like to join.

  • miscellaneousfinds4u By miscellaneousfinds4u
    03.18.09  

    I worked full-time from my children's birth until they both graduated from High School. Then I got MS and became a stay-at-home mom. I did it all backwards ;) Connie

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