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Feels like no friends
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on Aug 31, 2014 (Read 419 times | Comments: 4)
I may sound depressed but I feel once I started getting serious with my now husband, I have lost all my friends. They make up lame excuses not to visit or even get chat with me. Some even avoid my invite all together (thanks social media ). I have two kids now (4 year old boy and 1 year old daughter ). They haven't even attempted to reconnect with my family and I over the years (9 years now in January). Any advice on how to ask them why they simply stopped talking to me Even if they won't reply to other questions
mesugsheerie
mesugsheerie
on Sep 05, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

Maybe you could ask if you offended them or if something occurred with your husband that they didn't tell you about. I think it's best to be direct with them. If they don't respond, then at least you feel good in the fact that you tried everything. If they still don't want to be friends, then maybe you can join some local mom groups or other groups that will give you opportunities to meet new people. Meetup.com is pretty cool. There are groups for so many diverse interests.
Eule3400
Eule3400
on Sep 09, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

I feel the same. If they were real friends they should try to contact you and if not the right friends are bound to come along that are in similar situations.
Akw1016
Akw1016
on Sep 11, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

Is there any chance your friends are just no longer in the same stage of life as you? Are your friends not married and have kids? Perhaps it makes them feel awkward or like they are imposing on your family time. And to be honest sometimes childless people feel like their married with children friends are now sticks in the mud. They have this misconceived idea that they are no longer fun as they're bogged down with responsibility. Because of the lapse in time, I'd suggest just picking up and moving on, don't waste another minute of your time on "friends" who aren't reciprocating in the relationship.
6stringmama
6stringmama
on Sep 17, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

I agree, sometimes when things in your life change, your friends change. Happened to me as well. I have a 4 years old and haven't seen or talked to any of the people I used to in years. We just kinda fell out over time. Its hard to meet new people too, but maybe try to find some programs or group activities that could get you acquainted with new people in the same life stage as you? I tried to hang on to old friendships and in reality its probably not worth the effort. If you have to force it, its not meant to be. Instead of looking behind you, you should look towards the future. With a little effort and getting out of the house im sure you'll be able to find new friends and get back to having a nice social life! Best wishes! :)