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Single for far too long
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on Feb 28, 2014 (Read 731 times | Comments: 9)
I have been single for 6 years now. I'm only 24 but still. I don't really know how to go about meeting new people and what not. Does anyone have any advice? My last boyfriend hurt me so bad, I kind of have a wall preventing anyone to get close to me. Any advice to help tone that down some as well?
ToBeHeard
ToBeHeard
on Mar 16, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

Well... single for too long. I have been single for almost 11 years now; however, I am not young. It is okay to be single and happy, but always on the look out. I might advise getting out to the coffee house and sitting to enjoy coffee, or if you're involved at church many of them have a singles group. I would highly advise an active singles group at church. It is easy to be flattered and find the wrong people at parties and bars. Another idea might be to volunteer time on the weekends to the Red Cross or another local community group, where you are bound to meet all sorts of people and maybe the "right" guy. Just some ideas!
Shayspeaksup
Shayspeaksup
on May 14, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

As much as sitting down to enjoy coffee and joining a singles group at church sounds, there are other alternatives that can be FUN! How about you self-evaluate yourself first and focus only on the things that you DO want in a guy, and not the things that you DON'T want in a guy. (if you have not done so already) Also, you can go out with a group of girl friends and go to the bar, rock climbing, any fun activity that puts you in a comfortable enough setting to just talk, observe, laugh, play and get to know OTHERS around you. Having a wall up to prevent anyone from getting close to you is perfectly fine but still, do not let that be the reason why you do not want to go out and meet new people. Do not let that define or validate your singularity . Be positive and glad that you are able to move on from having your last boyfriend hurt you. If he's living his life, you need to go out and do the same as well. That's the least you can do for yourself.
lillyanasamaroo
lillyanasamaroo
on Jun 06, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

You may feel lonely being single but bear in mind that even people in relationships even feel lonely sometimes. The reason being is that people rely on others for their happiness too much. You're young but that has nothing to do with it because young or old, it's up to you to make the best out of life and take everything it has to offer. However, it is understood that at the end of the day we're all humans and we desire that love and affection from others, but you won't be able to receive such love if you keep holding on to your past and hold everyone accountable for the mistakes of your boyfriend by keeping up your wall. Love yourself, keep busy, but give other people a chance. You don't necessarily need to go looking for people, trust me when I say the right people come into your life at the right time. In the meantime, don't stress over it! Just think about all the things you are blessed with and keep on moving forward :) Stay positive!
lillyanasamaroo
lillyanasamaroo
on Jun 06, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

You may feel lonely being single but bear in mind that even people in relationships even feel lonely sometimes. The reason being is that people rely on others for their happiness too much. You're young but that has nothing to do with it because young or old, it's up to you to make the best out of life and take everything it has to offer. However, it is understood that at the end of the day we're all humans and we desire that love and affection from others, but you won't be able to receive such love if you keep holding on to your past and hold everyone accountable for the mistakes of your boyfriend by keeping up your wall. Love yourself, keep busy, but give other people a chance. You don't necessarily need to go looking for people, trust me when I say the right people come into your life at the right time. In the meantime, don't stress over it! Just think about all the things you are blessed with and keep on moving forward :) Stay positive!
haleyg510
haleyg510
on Jun 13, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

Don't let being single get you down! I know it stinks when your friends are getting married and having babies but just know that you will be the one eventually. Do the things you love doing and maybe you will meet someone who loves doing the same things! It is never too late to find love.
sandrota
sandrota
on Aug 30, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

Your are too young to be worried sweetie. God has someone out there for you and he will send him to your life at the right time, meanwhile enjoy your life. I have been single my whole life until God brought my husband into my life. I knew he was the one the night I met him.
ASTopper
ASTopper
on Aug 31, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

Don't be worried or upset being single, sometimes as humans we want to rush things and most of the times it ends up all wrong. Go through your 20's living life, having fun, get yourself secured in a good job, and lay your foundation for your future. When you least expect it, someone will come into your life when you least expect it to happen. Sometimes we all have to go through the rough patches in order to make it to the smooth paved roads. I wish you well and good luck.
Akw1016
Akw1016
on Sep 11, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

Embrace being single! My very best friend has just turned 30 and has been single for a good number of years now, Her last relationship was pretty rough on her as well and she really has a great attitude about her single-dom, in fact if I ever become single I hope I can do it with as much grace as she has. She feels and I quote "I'd much rather be alone than be with someone I'm not attracted to or doesn't make me happy"
AnomalyMe
AnomalyMe
on Jan 30, 2015 Quote  »     Reply  »

you're 24 lol still young and heck love has no age. i think you just have to just talk to people let your guard down to make friends first. i mean thats how couples should start out as at first anyway. relationships need strong foundations or else when things start to get rocky later, the bottom wont easily crumble. i'd check out online dating sites just to get your game on and practice the art of flirting and being able to hold a conversation. people love people who share a few similar interests as they do :)