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stevethecat
spending money without him knowing....
on Oct 09, 2011
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Okay, so I just went to the jeweler to have my engagement ring repaired and price a diamond to replace one that fell out of my anniversary ring..... and , I UPGRADED to a much bigger and more expensive ring. He has NO idea how much it cost-- thinks it was 1000's less and is ok with it but now what.....we can afford it....just let it go?
bhall1331
on Oct 10, 2011
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I think that marriage is totally about honestity. Do not get me wrong sometimes I do splurge on the occasional new handbag or shoes, without my loved one knowing, but I would tell him if he asked if it was new. I think that you should come clean though since it is such a big amount of difference. Maybe tell him that after the repairs were finished it was more than you thought so you do not start a big fight about initially lying about the amount. I you come clean about it you will feel much better about the amount.
noellenyny8403
on Aug 26, 2012
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Does he not notice that its bigger? lol
madupers
on Oct 20, 2014
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I agree with bhall1331. Come clean and be honest. He might get a little angry in the beginning but he will appreciate that you told the truth. You can propose to find a way to make up for the cost but I think he will know that it was not your intent to spend that much before you left home that day.
KarinMae
on Oct 22, 2014
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Honesty is always the best policy. Men may become angry with you when you first tell them but you told the truth from the beginning. It is way better to deal with them being upset then them finding out and feeling like they cannot trust you. Trust is key in any relationship and so is honesty. Tell him.
nikmakeupjunkie
on Mar 06, 2015
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Honesty is extremely important and if you can afford it, there's no need to hide it. My husband has never gotten mad over me spending money on something I want as long as I'm not spending all of the money. If you can't be honest, you won't have trust and without trust, you won't have a stable relationship. He will eventually find out; if you're not the one to tell him, he will lose trust in you at the very least.
Rachael403
on Mar 26, 2015
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I agree, I think honesty is the best policy. I would talk to him and fess up. It will be a lot better to do it now instead of after he sees the bill. Trust is a very delicate thing that has to be balanced. Without it, you will be struggling as a couple. He may be hurt that you are updating the ring that he bought for you without talking to him first.
AnarchyAngel
on Apr 09, 2015
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Honesty is always the best policy. Would you want him to lie to you? Something like that I would have to tell him about. A few extra $20-$30 here and there no big deal in my opinion but that much money I would be really mad about if my spouse didn't tell me.