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mustangmomof4
Tough love is it the answer???????
on Nov 11, 2014
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My oldest Son is 29. He is in prison for the second time for the same offense. Assault on a family member. (wife). He has ADD and is Bi-polar. Is not on prescribed medication for either (no insurance) He always puts the blame on someone else. Very rarely accepting that he may be at fault. He has anger management issues. His story is the same every time he gets in trouble. ~ "Mom... She hit me...She drinks and becomes violent. I was only defending myself from a crazy person." He has been in prison for a yr. Being released soon. He is still married to this person. Whom I am "Friends" on Facebook. In the past yr. she has dated 5 different men. Posting her relationship status with every new relationship. My Son has asked to parole to live with my husband and I. He needs an answer.... I am so torn on what to do. He is begging me for help. We also have a younger daughter living at home. My heart is broken!
MommyFavorites
on Nov 12, 2014
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God bless you that you have to go through this. Tough love is so hard. Not sure what I would do if I were in your shoes. Being a mom isn't easy, even when your kids are all grown-up. I know that I probably would go talk to a professional psychiatrist (or someone within my church) to help me sort out things. And it sounds like he needs to talk to someone too. He needs to love himself, so he doesn't end up back in his unhealthy relationship. No one deserves to be treated like that. One thing to remember is that he is an adult and needs to start taking responsibility for his actions. We all have excuses (or can find excuses) on why we do things. Blessings!
Amberangel
on May 09, 2017
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The solution is ....no he cannot live with you. Set the final example now. I have been there and done this, so please let him go on his own. It is clearly obvious he is not taking any responsibility to going to a clinic to get medication at no cost. If this means going far away to get it, well that is better than none. You cannot let him be in the house with your daughter, I am not saying he is psycho, but watch Bates Hotel, lol, I was kidding but you cannot afford to let him stay with you as far as comfort goes. If anything did happen violently in your house the guilt will be on you. This person should be weaned already any way.