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Hands full with my 5yr daughter
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on Jun 22, 2014 (Read 363 times | Comments: 5)
When they said your kids will be you 2times worse they were not kidding. Trying to get my daughter to listen and behave at home has been a challenge.I get down to eye level with a stern voice and explain what is. But that does not always work. Sometimes it seems the only thing that grabs her attention is to raise my voice. I do not want to be the Mom who yells all the time. Her father does not have problems with her as I do. I know both kids(9,5) listen to him bc he is more stern with them. But then again he is a cop so that is already in his voice. She is a very hyper child who is full of life and laughter. But there are days where you can see darkness in her eyes and she is so angry. If she doesn't get her way she growls, cries loudly tends to throw things. I feel as I have failed as a parent and she is not even 6 yet. I am just scared its gonna get worse before better. I will say when we are out in public she tends to do great! Which I am grateful for that.
DesertDaisy
DesertDaisy
on Jun 22, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

She's just being a kid.No child listens all the time and they all have one parent that they listen to more then the other. You are not a failure.remember nobody said having kids was easy. just follow through with any punishment you give her. don't back down.
DesertDaisy
DesertDaisy
on Jun 22, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

She's just being a kid.No child listens all the time and they all have one parent that they listen to more then the other. You are not a failure.remember nobody said having kids was easy. just follow through with any punishment you give her. don't back down.
loveangelblu
loveangelblu
on Jun 28, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

I have twins boys that are about to be 4 and I find myself in the same situation as you. I am a stay at home mother and I have one that is very active and the other that just doesn't want to listen.people tell me all the time that they dont see how I do it. I try just talking calmly but yet it goes in one ear and out the other with them. I tend to find myself raising my voice also and I hate it so much. I just keep telling myself they are being kids and they will grow out of it I pray. When we out in public or when they are with others they dont act as they do at home. Thank goodness for that. But I keep teaching and showing patience with them as I should.
LoveAll
LoveAll
on Jun 29, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

Loveangelblu I am sorry that you have ruff days as well. But yes they are being kids and I am certain they will out grow it. For myself when I catch myself starting to raise my voice, I literally take a step back, close my eyes and breath. Once I have regained my composure I get down to eye level with her and explain why I am disappointed with how she was acting. Some days it works since I am in a calming voice and she tends to think about her actions. But there are days where she is not listening to the calm mom and I do have to raise my voice. I guess all we can do for now is try and keep our patience in check and try not to end up in the padded room any time soon. Good luck and you can find me on here if you need to talk.
Mrsadams11
Mrsadams11
on Jul 18, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

I hear ya my daughter is 7 and still doesn't listen very well. When she throws a fit she gets put in her room or a spanking. She'll calm down as long as she understands there are no rewards for bad behavior only punishments. She'll grow out of it someday.