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first born moving away
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on May 21, 2013 (Read 480 times | Comments: 3)
I've dealt with my( first born ) 19 year old moving away for college but she has always come back home, but she is also enlisted in the army and almost ready to finish her basic training. I got a call from her the other night in which she told me she is moving in with a co-worker (a 50 something mother figure) when she comes home. I'm very jealous of this mother figure and crushed my baby isnt moving back home. I do have 3 other children still at home but not handling this very easily. Is this normal and will go away, please share your thoughts experiances or critisizm,
DesiredOne
DesiredOne
on Sep 03, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

My oldest daughter moved back to the state she was born in and says she doesn't want to move back because she is not fond of the state we had to move to. I was crushed at first but know I raised her to be on her own and now I am happy for her. It feels good to know that they are doing exactly what they are supposed to be doing and that is growing up. I noticed this was last year so hoping that you are now at peace with her decision and are proud of her for wanting to move on her with her life.
madupers
madupers
on Oct 20, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

My oldest daughter moved back for a few months but will be moving with friends to her own place soon. I have mixed feelings too about it. She is not going with a "mother figure" but I understand that she wants to be on her own. I tell myself: Is in it what I prepared her for?: teaching everything I can so that she can "fly" on her own? I also feel that I needed more time, that I have more to share with her but I understand she feels she is ready. At her age, I wanted to be on my own too. As mothers we have to be open and use patience to continue to stay close and "jump in" when they need us; we are used to be close, just in case. Now, they know we are there to catch them and our relationship with our daughters changed, are more mature... I see a blossoming young woman and I am very proud of her. I am sure you see her "growing-up" too but know that she will reach out for you - YOU are her mother. Make time for coffee or a movie together, keep in touch.
MommyFavorites
MommyFavorites
on Oct 22, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

She will always need her mom! My oldest is 11 years old and I'm already stressing about it. But I hold on to the memory of when I moved out, heading to college. I needed my mom more than ever! Special care packages leave the best memories!