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momsgonecrazy


 
 
perfect time to have another?
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on Feb 12, 2013 (Read 14619 times | Comments: 15)
I'm a SAHM of a wonderful little girl, almost three, and I have a 6-year-old boy who is in first grade. I've had INSANE baby fever lately... I'm dying for another child. However, we're definitely not the richest couple on the block. We're getting a nice tax return, and are comfortable right now, but my husband is really worried about finances and the future and what-if's. Is there ever a perfect time to have a(nother) child?
moon12216
moon12216
on Feb 17, 2013 Quote  »     Reply  »

I would make a list of pros and cons of having another baby.Then go from there.Think about the money cost of diapers ect..What if something happened and like a wreck or something would you still have the money to support another kid?Also think about your house is it big enough for another kid.Well anyway this it just my suggestion.
momsgonecrazy
momsgonecrazy
on Feb 20, 2013 Quote  »     Reply  »

Thanks so much! Our house is definitely big enough. We're blessed to have a four bedroom. We're renting, though, so that's one of the issues. One day, we might be asked to move - if the owner sells, or what have you. But that's one of the "what-if's". Something could always come up, right?
chotamoti
chotamoti
on Feb 22, 2013 Quote  »     Reply  »

I don't think anyone is actually ready to have a child whether or not it's your first or your third. I wouldn't worry too much about the what-ifs and look more into the every day costs of a child. If you can handle those and you both really want another. Then go ahead and try for it. If he's worried about finances you could always create a spreadsheet of how you could afford it and that might help.
momsgonecrazy
momsgonecrazy
on Feb 22, 2013 Quote  »     Reply  »

Thanks so much! I totally agree :)
Chele13
Chele13
on Feb 27, 2013 Quote  »     Reply  »

I don't think there is ever a not perfect time to have a baby emotionally, but financially i totaly understand your dilema. There are jsut so many factors that couldn't even be considered. We all know what day to day costs can be, diapers, wipes, (maybe formula), clothes etc but what about if they or you get sick and there are more than normal doctor bills stuff like that. I say if you have the love to give and are willing to work harder if need be if extrodianry $$ issues do come up then baby away :)
MissingMinnesota
MissingMinnesota
on Feb 27, 2013 Quote  »     Reply  »

I don't think there is ever a "perfect" time, and if you wait until you have "enough" money, it will never happen. Are you sure your husband wants another?
WendyR19
WendyR19
on May 07, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

I don't think anyone will ever be ready for a child and the expenses that come along with having one. Like you said, the "what-ifs" could be anything. It could happen to anyone of your family members and the expenses could be overwhelming. But if you truly want to have a baby and your husband is on board, I say go for it. There are many ways for you to help compensate for the expenses. If it means you have to get a job, even a part time job can help out a lot. You still get to stay home with your kids, but at the same time generate some income while they're in school. Also, ask your kids how they feel about having a younger sibling, ask and explain to them all the ways they could help out with the new baby. Get into using coupons and shopping smart. Buying when things are on sale.
AnAmericanHousewife
AnAmericanHousewife
on May 07, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

If you wait for the 'perfect' time to have another child, you will never have another child. There is no perfect time. You, the baby and your friends and family MAKE it the perfect time... no matter when that is. :)
someday
someday
on Jul 23, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

I have two children and they are both over age 10 and I did not even have the thought of having another child till last year and now I am well over 40 - too late. Make a list like one of the other posts recommends. I would not want you to feel like you should have and didn't like me. I am sure you will make the right decision. Keep us posted!!
FRANCESCAB
FRANCESCAB
on Nov 06, 2014 Quote  »     Reply  »

i found this link very helpful for my husband and I. www.jessconnell.com/why-have-more-kids
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