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MadHatter


 
 
Work place drama! to leave or not to leave?
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on Oct 04, 2010 (Read 7729 times | Comments: 25)
I need help or advise badly unless i will feel that my head will explode. I don't even know where to begin discribing the environment at my work place! very NOT DIVERSE, very unprofessional, toxic environment. I know the economy isn't too good and i have tried so hard to find another job, but this is so harsh and unberable. I get yelled at a lot even when i didn't do anything wrong! its like i have a "pick on me" magnet. I can't talk to my co workers because they don't listen to reason as well as almost always talk over me because they think being loud gets the point accross. Should i leave, be jobless for god knows how long? or should i be greatful that i have a job and stick with it and be misrable? has anyone experienced this and gotten out? there is so much i wanted to say but there isn't enough space to say it all! i want to leave on a good note too! :( advise is highly appreciated!
april_ilo
april_ilo
on Oct 04, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

I went through the same thing...I finally left a crappy job after having my son. My pregnancy was problems from the start...stress = high bp = problems w/ pregnancy. Well, my obgyn put me out of work at 6 1/2 months pregnant...at that point I wasnt expected to carry my son to term due to all the complications. WELL...being away from my job was the best thing for me, I carried my son to term (39 weeks) and had a very healthy baby boy! I used up all my time at work then I put in my notice :) I never went back! And what a relief that was!! I have had other jobs along the way but my husband and I talked and now having two children it's best for me to stay at home w/ my kidos. (6 years later I'm still happy that I left). I say find another job!! If your not happy, then your not healthy ;) Best of Luck to you!!
MadHatter
MadHatter
on Oct 05, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

Thanks April, gratz to your 2 beautiful children! :) well, I am in my mid 20's, just recently finished paying off my college loans and haven't even started saving up! i don't have anyone to fall back on since I am not married and i did not grow up in a well off family. I have only known about working hard for money. I am misrable where i am, and HR doesn't even help either! the HR department needs to be restructured. I always thought that if you told HR something, then you would be anonymous on the account, however HR would not hesitate to go to the person you reported and blab to them that you filed a complaint. they are a bunch of back stabbers. I am at a lost. I had a few interviews here and there, but then I think because i am not that good at talking (i get nervous) that is why i don't do so good in interviews.
cathygreenway
cathygreenway
on Oct 05, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

I have had the same problems in the past, and it seems like there needs to be some training for all employees in Workplace Ethics. We have just 15 minutes a month training and it has definitely made a difference. Maybe you can suggest this to the Manager.
MadHatter
MadHatter
on Oct 05, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

Cathygreenway - i wish i can suggest that to my manager, or even director! but the they are part of the reason why this workplace is so toxic! when you need help and go to them, they are either too busy talking someone on the phone, ignoring you or telling you to go away. i even wrote emails to them and they at times ignore them until sh*t hits the fan, then they point and place the blame. i tell them that i am overloaded with work and for someone with a college degree, i should not be making bare minimum. i requested for a salary adjustment and they ignore me. they do not respect me but see me as a working mule. my director always makes snide comments and puts me down a lot. she even called me into her office to yell at me and then called me useless before kicking me out. my manager is 2 faced person and apparently likes to lie a lot. but with no proof of this, and them having more connections and ties in the department, who will believe me? workplace ethics won't work here...
mardel
mardel
on Oct 05, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

MadHatter I am sorry to hear about your situation. Even in the work place there is always some kind of drama with people. Is there someone higher in position besides the manger you could speak, too? Stress causes health problems and that's something you don't need. It affects you physically and emotionally and if those people treat you the way you say I suggest you evaluate your situation and really consider another job. Hope that helps and take care! Good luck
MadHatter
MadHatter
on Oct 05, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

Hi Mardel - yes there is someone higher up then the manager, and that is the Director! and above the director is the AVP who is buddy buddy with the director and manager. its a lose lose situation here. you know when they say, life gives you lemons, make lemonade? well life gave me a lemon field!!! i guess its cause i am a quite person that is why they find it easier to pick on me. I have a mild case of OCD in which i like things at a certain position, place, and clean...my desk is almost empty because i file and keep that organized, but i get yelled at because of it because apparently i don't have enough work to do? that doesn't make sense. i tried to make my desk messy, but then it bothers me all day long. i don't even complain. but when i do speak up on open discussions they wave me aside like im a fly? :( so sad. thansk for all your help!
jh0816
jh0816
on Oct 26, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

I feel for you MadHatter, I was in a similar situation. There was this lady who would tattle on me just to rattle me. The boss would come and jump on me before hearing my side. After she heard my side she would take my side, but NEVER apologize and kept letting the other lady do it OVER and OVER again. I left a few years ago. It was sweet. The other lady was getting ready to go on vacation. There were just two of us and the boss and the owner. They paid to date, so on a Friday I received my check for through Friday. I cashed that check that day and never went back. I drove by and saw she did nto get to go on vacation as planned the next week because there was her car! HAHA! But I would not suggest that because unless you have another job lined up. I would like to make a suggestion to you because it worked for me. It is hard to find jobs right now. I started doing volunteer work on the side of that job, and the volunteer work led to the paying job I took after leaving the
jh0816
jh0816
on Oct 26, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

MORE! crazy place. They got to see what I was made of in that way and I met good contacts so I could get my foot in the door. PLUS they did not care about getting a reference from the crazy place as they already saw me in action when I volunteered, they knew me and what I could do. GREAT, great way to make good contacts for paying jobs. Try it out and let me know how it works!
Groovyduo
Groovyduo
on Oct 29, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

As you can see, you're not alone in your situation. Although it doesn't do a thing towards solving the problem, perhaps you can find some comfort in knowing others have been through it and are now thriving. As far as leaving without another job lined up, that action would add to the stress when bills start piling up. My advice is keep your head down while working. Keep searching the job boards and circulating your resume. Depending on how large the company is where you work, transferring to another department might be another option. I know of a similar instance where a co-worker put in and interviewed for an internal position. Once they transferred to the new department, they found out people in the department did not have a high opinion of the ex-boss.
Groovyduo
Groovyduo
on Oct 29, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

About interviews and nerves ... never go in thinking you have to have the job -even if it's true- or it's the job for you. Instead, keep in mind you're also interviewing them. I'm sure, especially after your current experience, you have standards. I'm not saying go in acting haughty or with a chip on your shoulder, and never vent about bad experiences with other employers, but keep in mind you are there to gather information about the position and get a feel for a prospective employer. If you go into an interview with that mindset, and are prepared to answer some of the questions they usually throw out, it'll go a long way toward you exuding confidence and speaking in a clear and concise manner. The next thing you know, interviews will be no more than another part of the process ... a verbal one. Good luck no matter what you decide.
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