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My close friend read my personal journal
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on Mar 02, 2010 (Read 374 times | Comments: 5)
So a couple weeks ago, I told my friend she could use my laptop. Little did I know, I had left my personal document open. It is something that I do every day, I write down what I have done, how I feel about things, and what I want to improve about myself. It is my most sacred thing to me, and extremely personal. She told me the other day to not be mad at her, but she ended up reading it. She actually said that she thought the content was really special and that she is going to start doing the same thing. I suppose it is a good thing that I was able to inspire my friend, but I honestly cannot get over this. I still feel so invaded, and it is just an awful feeling knowing that she read my innermost thoughts. I feel like a schoolgirl embarrassed that her mother read her diary, but I am a grown woman who still keeps a journal, filled with everything I treasure most. The worst part is her reading that can't be undone...how can I move past this? Has this happened to anyone else?
mcgeegirl
mcgeegirl
on Mar 03, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

WOW... Really feel for you & I am sorry for the pain you are feeling. All I can say is time does heal, the pain will lessen & if she really is a true friend you will work through this. You will be able to tell by her actions & by what she says or does not say about reading it if she is a true friend that part depends on you. Maybe this will help you become closer friends & she will take what she read & be more compassionate, understanding, & helpful to you (depending on what was written). This is such a personal thing & even if the same thing happened to us telling you how we handled it wouldn't help you because we all are so different & handle hurt feeling in many ways. I cry, become withdrawn, & have a very difficult time even looking at the person that hurt me, then once I get over myself then I am able to talk things out, other times I get so angry I just scream and yell. Please let us know how this all works out for you, I am sure we all can learn a valuable lesson. Good Luck
arbymomma
arbymomma
on Mar 06, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

Hi,, I to am sorry that this happened to you. Did you tell her that you felt invaded?? It isn't wrong to still use a journal, I recomend it to alot of people because sometimes we just can't say to people what we need to say but we still need to say it and putting it down on paper is the next best thing. I myself have started using bigger journals because of everything I write down. If you don't feel comfortable talking to her right now, wait a little while and than let her know that yes she read it, but let her know how it made you feel that she read it. This might even open the lines of communication to the two of you better, at least I hope so. I hope all works out for you.
MadHatter
MadHatter
on Mar 09, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

wow. im so sorry to hear this, but im not surprised that your friend let her curiosity get the best of her. if she read the first sentence or paragraph and known that this is your personal diary, she should have stopped and not gone further. what your friend did was invade and cross the line and i would be frustrated with what she done. but the way to get over it i think will be talk to her about it. to her, it might not be a big deal because she didn't start a diary yet or had anyone invade into her space like that, and you have.
ddavidso
ddavidso
on Mar 09, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

my first reaction is that she totally invaded your space... once i read it again, was it just one entry or did she read your entire journal. Still wrong but she might not have known what it was until she was mostly through it and the fact that she admitted it to you tells me that she is a pretty honest person .. she did not have to do that so she must have felt bad enough about it to know it was wrong and trust the relationship enough to know it was something you both could overcome.. good friends are hard to come by so talk about it with her again but give her another chance...
maysonsmama
maysonsmama
on Mar 09, 2010 Quote  »     Reply  »

People are nosey by nature. This does not give her permission at all to do what she did, but at least she was willing to admit that she had done it. I think that if I were in your situation I would tell my friend that what she did offended me, but that I am happy that she has decided to write a journal of her own. I think that once she starts to write her personal feelings down, thinking that no one will be able to read them, she will realize what she did was not acceptable. I don?t know if you kept a diary as a kid, but I remember when I was little half the battle of keeping a diary was hiding it in a safe place so that my big brother wouldn?t find it and read it. Let it be a lesson, don?t trust people with things that you don?t want them to see, and close the program before you let someone borrow your computer again.