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Social Networking For Six-Year-Olds
Posted November 3, 2009

With the list of popular social networking sites expanding every day it is no wonder people of all ages are being drawn to them.  For parents, this may mean making a decision of when to let their children join in and create their very own account.  The top sites like MySpace and Facebook set their age restriction at 13, but they have no real way of verifying a person's age. 

A recent article from CNN reports that 38 percent of respondents in a study between the ages of 12 and 14 said they have an online profile on a social networking site.  Parents often worry their young children could be subjected to viewing inappropriate photographs, comments, or worst of all coming in contact with an online predator.

A professor of psychology from California State University, Kaveri Subrahmanyam, is not too worried about placing age limitations on these websites.  She says, "For the most part, although there's so much press about all the bad things they're doing, much of what they're doing is stuff they would be doing anyway." 

There are sites, unlike MySpace and Facebook, that cater specifically to young children and place limitations on what the children can do while online.  On one site, loosely based onFacebook, called KidSwirl there are children as young as 5 that have active accounts.  Both Webkinz and Whyville are also social networking sites for kids that feature a more supervised level of networking like KidSwirl. Toby Clark, creator of KidSwirl, points out that kids spend an average of 5 minutes signed on to his site compared to the 20 minute average FaceBook receives.  Some parents view these sites as a way to get their kids ready for the more adult versions of these sites.

What do you think of allowing young children to take part in social networking sites?

Do you think joining a site specifically targeted to young kids is a good way to prepare them for more adult sites in the future?

42 Comments
pjclayton57 says: November 03, 2009 07:36 AM
Absolutely not! I am a firm believer that a 6 year old should be outside playing, not sitting idle in front of a computer screen. There is way too much pressure on young kids these days to grow up too quickly and not enough emphasis on being a kid. There is plenty of time for children to acclimate to the adult world; 6 years old is just way too young. I am all for a child browsing the internet for educational things; my grandson checks the hockey scores in the morning, uses google to search answers to questions that he has that no one has the correct answer for, and even uses it as a geography tool. These are fine, but to sit and "chat" online with others does not seem right. Long gone are the days of personal communication. Texting has taken place of voice to voice calls, IM and email has taken place of letters. I think more emphasis should be placed on verbal and written communication skills along with reading comprehension!!!
Brenda121 says: November 03, 2009 08:56 AM
I would not allow my young child to join a site like that... Kids don't need junk like that..
momagarry says: November 03, 2009 10:06 AM
This is totally unnecessary.
cybrown551 says: November 03, 2009 11:20 AM
I have mixed emotions about this. There can be a benefit to allowing your child to explore the internet community. However, I am very concern about 6 years old being the starting age. I believe that a more appropriate age would be 11 or 12 years of age. That way the child would be better able to communicate with their parent about inappropriate behavior that they may come into contact with. A child that is six years of age is too vulnerable and they don?t have a complete understanding of avoiding people who may try to exploit their innocence.
Gott2beme says: November 03, 2009 08:43 PM
I agree it's totally unnecessary!!
jemappel says: November 03, 2009 10:00 PM
Kids (and all people) need face-to-face relationships, not virtual ones. I feel the same way about teenagers...they think they get to know someone well because of a relationship they develop online, but it's not a "real" relationship. This can happen to someone of any age, but I think teens are more susceptible because they're not as experienced. And it would be even worse for pre-teens.
Alyssarae92293 says: November 04, 2009 06:43 PM
I THINK A 6 OR 5 YEAR OLD SHOULD NOT HAVE A MYSPACE OR FACEBOOK! WAHT COULD THEY BE DOING ON THERE ANYWAYS! I THINK ITS OK FOR MIDDLE SCHOOL CHILDREN AND UP THOUGH
VBARRERA says: November 04, 2009 08:57 PM
KIDS NEED TO BE OUTSIDE PLAYING, BEING KIDS, MY CHILDREN ARE NOT ALLOWED. I THINK ITS WRONG, I HAVE HEARD OF PARENTS IN MY BOYS SCHOOL THAT WILL CREATE A MY SPACE ACCOUNT FOR THEIR 5 YEAR OLD AND I THINK ITS NOT RIGHT. LET THEM BE KIDS..
simplicity738 says: November 05, 2009 02:39 AM
Young children need to be living their lives, in real life. Not through the internet. I think a big issue is that parents need to become more aware of the fact that there are other ways for them to access the internet and these social networking sites than just by a computer. There are phones, certain hand-held gaming devices, friends homes, etc. that are used to access the internet, so if kids want to have a profile, they're going to find a way to get one and access it often. The networking for younger children is just a complete joke. It's completely and utterly absurd. What are we teaching future generations? That it's okay to live behind a screen and possible lies? They won't gain anything from these.Companies really need to spend money creating positive programs instead of wasting it on crap like this.
msfriendly says: November 05, 2009 12:12 PM
No! This is insane! Kids need to get out, enjoy the sunshine and see REAL friends and play face to face!
jellybeanr says: November 05, 2009 03:04 PM
My 12 year old son tried to open an account on facebook because he saw his friends and cousins on the site. I didn't realize there was an age restriction. He is not allowed to have an account until 13 yrs. I was very surprised that my nephew has an account and He is 10 and many of my son's classmates age 12 have accounts.
adragail says: November 05, 2009 07:27 PM
I do not think that Children need a social networking site, such as Kidswirl, but I am not opposed to my kids being on Webkinz. They have an allotted time that they are allowed on the computer. The computer is in the family room and is always monitored. They have their own logins which allow them only on specific kid friendly sites. This is part of a kid being a kid. They are learning computer skills and having fun!
marylynnf says: November 05, 2009 08:58 PM
Just what kids need more reason to sit, type and get no exercise. What are people thinking. Social site - hooey - these kids don't learn social skills being on a computer they need to be involved in activities with other children in person not behind a computer screen.
smilin_sara says: November 06, 2009 10:01 AM
I don't think that a 5 or 6 year old need to even be on the computer. They need to be outside getting all of the fresh air and exercise that they can get. When I was 6, I didn't even know what a computer was, now a days, 6 year olds know more about them then a lot of adults do. It is sad....parents need to be outside with their children, not letting them sit in front of a computer screen.
loli1707 says: November 06, 2009 10:17 AM
No way ! They need to go outside & play !
Lusadi says: November 06, 2009 05:25 PM
There is absolutely no reason why any child under high school age (and I'm iffy on high school students) needs access to the internet. Children and teenagers alike do not have sufficiently developed social boundaries to allow them to interact with people over the internet.
Beatrice says: November 07, 2009 06:40 PM
Children six and under should definitely be on Facebook. Though its secure one does not how it can be invaded and the information used could be a detrement to the child/
Beatrice says: November 07, 2009 06:41 PM
please fix to say should NOT be on Facebook
loveCabo09 says: November 07, 2009 10:05 PM
Absolutely not! I am also a firm believer that children should be outside playing, not sitting idle in front of a computer screen. I agree that there is way too much pressure on young kids to grow up too quickly and not enough emphasis on being a kid. Then we wonder why our kids are over weight!
kelly123 says: November 08, 2009 10:58 PM
I think it is so upsetting to think about my young children joining one of these sites. I have been to these networks and am a member of a few and also know how dangerous they can be if your not careful.
mybunnyslipperz says: November 09, 2009 01:52 PM
What is the world coming to? There is no reason why a child that young should need to sit in front of a computer to "hang out" with their friends. They need to be out in the yard playing, using their imaginations and developing real life interaction skills! It worries me to think about what will become of these children in 20 years from now if they're allowed to forgo real life to sit in front of a computer screen to socialize. It just isn't healthy. It's bad enough that adults do it - but for goodness sakes - let the kids be kids!
dancingcoco says: November 10, 2009 07:06 PM
I do not think it is ok for any child under the age of 14 to have a networking site. They are to young and to vunerable to online preditors. I think parents should always be checking to see what their children are doing online. Why not send them out to play with their friends instead.
TreasureCoupons says: November 10, 2009 10:40 PM
I do not think a 6 year old needs a social networking site! They need to go outside and ride a bike, or play tag or something...kids spend too much time in the house now as it is...I was always outside as a kid.
gramma says: November 11, 2009 12:43 AM
social networking at 6 years old is DANGEROUS!. There is no way I would allow it. What happened to kids running and playing and coming in with the streetlights. The child needs more constructive interest computer time and use at that age should be monitored at all times. That child needs to be shown the games file on the computer and utilize that.
Whitestar says: November 11, 2009 12:50 AM
I don't believe children should be on the internet, period. It's a world that connects to people and sites these children know nothing about. Too many predators.
Tania24 says: November 12, 2009 12:16 AM
i too believe that any children under the age of of 14 or even 15 need to be on any social networking place if they want to socialize then have the friends come over to the house go out to the mall or the park besides at this age how much socializing can they do.
AimeeAken says: November 12, 2009 11:47 AM
I am a mom of two, ages 7 & 8. I have allowed them since Kindergarten age to play on-line games that interact with others .. BUT it is only for sites that block out or filter chat for children. There is not much they can do except play the game & no one is allowed to chat with them. So I guess it is not fully interactive. If it is a an age appropriate site with filters, etc. that you control they are fine by me. Webkins, TY, Freerealms.. You just have to make sure you are educated on the site and even play with them. :) I think it does prepare them for the future. Computers are the future and they learn so much from them. Most of the games require them to figure out and solve problems so mainly the game part is good for them, not so much the interaction. Unless they have a friend at school that wants them to play with them or something, it is not really necessary. They get enough interaction in school and in the world.
AimeeAken says: November 12, 2009 11:51 AM
Another thought to add... We have our computers in an open office area where everyone can see what is going on. I will not ever allow my children at ANY age to have one alone in their room. If it is something I can not see, it is not allowed.
aasterisk17 says: November 12, 2009 04:06 PM
Children come in all flavors; many with disabilities find acceptance in online communities that is not easily attained in daily life. Some (on the autism spectrum especially) gravitate to online communities (even at the tender age of two) because they are increasingly able to gain achievements and boost self esteem that dwarf any experiences they've had to date in the "great outdoors" ... unsupervised social networking can be dangerous, but many childrens' sites offer only canned chat responses - quite harmless. It may not be for everyone, but it is definitely a godsend for some.
cdefabrizio says: November 12, 2009 06:43 PM
I don't think that a child who is 5 or 6 years old needs to be on a networking site. They aren't going to understand what is being said. Once they reack 11 or so they should be allowed but only while being superivsed.
smiling1 says: November 15, 2009 12:52 AM
I think children that young should be doing creative play and other activities instead of creating a networking site. Computer time will catch up eventually but it is important to learn how to develop social networking face to face before added another dimension with the online networking. Kids need to learn how to interact and build relationships in person first. Not to mention there are a lot of people I would not want my children interacting with online. As parents we need to help guide and protect our children. Having some time on the computer okay but it should be monitored by the parent and limited. Kids grow up too fast as it is and we all want the best for each one of our little ones.
h2ocrazy says: November 17, 2009 10:10 PM
I totally agree with 'smiling1' - we need to protect our children. Like the Billy Dean song says.....Let them be little cuz their only that way for a while!
Eper29 says: November 18, 2009 12:55 PM
No way! I think it's ridiculous that companies are targeting our children so young. It's not as though they don't already encounter advertising everywhere. The "mouse company" even has their own site with a fee. Kids are only kids once. They don't need to worry about "virtual" friends when they can make real ones.
thrillby says: November 18, 2009 01:34 PM
I agree with smiling1 also. I have stepsons who do nothing- literally- but sit with their laptops in the den while watching tv at the same time. My 5 year old daughter will absolutely not be raised that way. What's more, the commercials on the so-called kids channels also encourage computer use and time-wasting activities. I feel like moving to the top of a mountain!
birdie19 says: November 20, 2009 06:54 PM
i wouldnt agree with this either its bad especially when there is online preditors that probably talk to you 6 year olds and acting like there 6 or 7 when really there in there late 30's to 40's our world isent a safe place any more .. an i really dont think our young youth should have a social networking sight until they are old enough to relize that there are creepers oout there ..
countrycouponclipper says: November 21, 2009 10:52 PM
No way, I would never allow my child on a networking site not even if it was only for children. I have a 9 year old and a 5 year old, kids need to be playing on the playground running and playing with kids there own age thats all the sociallizing they need.
joy9281 says: November 25, 2009 11:49 PM
i do not understand why a six year old needs this. children should spend less time in front of the t.v. or computer at this age and more time playing outside or even inside with their toys using their imaginations.
amgaer09 says: November 26, 2009 11:36 PM
I believe that any and all six year olds should not be allowed on any social networking sites. Children should be outside playing with other children. There are too many bad people on these social networking sites. Children who are six years old should be spending their time watching tv, learning new things, playing outside, and anything else for little children to do.
whslibrarian says: November 29, 2009 04:34 PM
Why do they need this? Teenagers are already addicted to social networking. Don't lower the age of the addiction.
Matta0914 says: December 04, 2009 12:57 AM
I dont think young childeren should be able to have these accounts. Their is alot of bad things on the web that they could get into. I think that 14 years old is a good age for them to start a myspace or facebook because they are going into high schoolat this time. A parent should still monitor it tho.
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Momofnewbusiness says: December 24, 2009 09:16 PM
I have to say I too agree with many of those who commented against this kind of social networking sites for such young children. It is bad enough when teenagers and 20+ kids use it and "get into trouble" with the wrong person or crowd, we must protect our children. It is truly unnecessary! I think that more emphasis should be placed on health, getting exercise and playing outdoors or with friends NOT only computer games, Wii, Nintendo DS, etc. What happened to good old fashion fun like hoola hooping, playing barbies, legos, drawing, doing art projects, sports, etc. The world has gotten way too much into cyber world. I do think that computers is a handy tool WHEN used properly, but we must monitor what our children are doing. I am NOT old, but I have to agree with my parents generation, etc. that we don't need to have all these things and feel like we need to be one up on technology...our parents survived, we survived, etc.
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