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Doting on Dolls
Posted January 4, 2009

Playing with baby dolls is not just for children anymore.  Thousands of women are taking home lifelike newborn baby dolls and calling them their own.  The dolls, called “reborns”, are meticulously designed by artists to look and feel just like a real newborn baby and can sell for over $1,000. 

Many of the women who buy the dolls could not have children of their own or have grown children out of the house and miss having a baby around.  The “reborns” are often taken for walks in strollers, clothed in real baby clothes, and doted over as if they were the real thing

A recent ABC News article reported on the baby doll phenomenon from a convention for reborn fans in Illinois.  ABC spoke with Lachelle Moore, who has both children and grandchildren of her own, about her love of reborns.  Moore said, “What’s so wonderful about reborns is that they’re forever babies.  They don’t give you any trouble.  There’s no college tuition, no dirty diapers...just the good part of motherhood.”  Moore added a $1,400 reborn to her collection of 36 dolls during the convention.

Women at the convention often referred to holding the dolls as providing “cuddle therapy” and there may be some truth to the phrase.  Studies have proven that women experience a chemical emotional rush when holding a newborn babySue Varma, a psychiatrist from the NYU School of Medicine, said “I would not be surprised to learn that if a women is holding a fake baby, that she would have the same chemical, hormonal reactions as if she was holding a real baby.”

It is not surprising that some people might find the idea of collecting these pricey fake newborns to be a little odd and possibly unhealthy.  Linda Moore describes it as a hobby she has chosen that does no harm to anyone.

What do you think of the recent report about women collecting these fake babies?

Do you think this is just a harmless hobby that helps fill a void in some women?
 

69 Comments
goldencz says: on Jan 04, 2009
I've seen several stories on the news about this and it just seems really weird. I guess if you do it in private, but carrying on out in public just seems like you're stretching the fantasy and trying to encourage others to "play along"
DaisysMomma says: on Jan 04, 2009
I saw this on the news also. They asked one woman how she felt if people didn't actually come up and comment on how cute her "baby" was. She said something to the effect that she got disappointed. They are cute for dolls but it is very strange to me how women would behave in this way.
RadioGirl87 says: on Jan 04, 2009
I think the idea is ridiculous. I'm only 21... but I thought, "Grow up". I don't see anything wrong with collecting the Reborns... but when it comes to treating them like real babies... that's when it goes too far. I couldn't believe that one woman's husband even played along. Seriously?!
Armywife76 says: on Jan 06, 2009
My husband would send me straight to the loony bin if I played with a baby doll! I guess that I missed this on the news, to bad, I could have used a good laugh lately!
meowmix says: on Jan 08, 2009
Playing dolls is for kids. Collecting things that would appreciate in value is adult. Not sure if either of these apply, but each to his own--its why we are a democracy.
mommyleah says: on Jan 08, 2009
Well, I could understand the feeling of needing to hold a baby but I wouldn't be able to get my mind around those fake ones. These women, and some men, could get jobs at a daycare... or volunteer at the nursery of their church. what do you think these women do if their children or grandchildren want to play with the dolls? :)
jenndta says: on Jan 08, 2009
I just recently saw a show about this too. These women scare the crap out of me. Too old, too much money, and too sad. They should try doing something like volunteer work and stop living in a fantasy world.
rockhound24 says: on Jan 09, 2009
Just plain creepy. Get a dog, there are plenty in shelters that could use some love.
meowmix says: on Jan 09, 2009
Volunteer at hospitals to hold preemies when parents are not there. Some places like to have folks to do this.
TLK72063 says: on Jan 09, 2009
My Mother In Law has her Room filled with Dolls,Yes she lives with US in her own Part of the House and I knew she was an Avid Collector of Baby Dolls but one day when she ordered one thru the mail and when it came she excitedly had to show me and then asked me a question of WHO I thought it looked Like?! At that moment I didn't know if I wanted to Burst into a fit of Laughter or Run to the Phone and Call the Men with the White Fitted Coats! She Proceeded to tell me that this DOLL looked Exactly like her Son,my Husband when he was a Baby! Oh Frightening! She even goes as far as buying special Holiday Outfits for these dolls and washes their clothes and hangs them out to dry Outside. I have already said to my Children if I ever do that I'm sorry just have me committed because I just don't think this is Normal Behavior for an Elderly Woman.
pgarcia74 says: on Jan 09, 2009
I feel sad for these women. They obviously have a lot of love to give but their relationships do not fullfill them or the people around them don't give them the attention they need. I can understand the escape from reality... I sometimes do it with books.
ann818marie says: on Jan 11, 2009
There is a difference between collecting dolls and treating dolls like they are your children. It;'s like the crazy cat lady but a little creepier. Sounds like there is a void in these women's lives. There are plenty of kids out there that could use a mentor, tutor, or foster parent.
WVMom00 says: on Jan 11, 2009
I have a friend that makes these babies. She loves creating them, she brings them in and shows all of us at work the newest one and she has made babies for co-workers as gifts, she has donated for high school auctions. She does not carry them around like they are real. The dolls are beautiful and very life-like looking. I can understand wanting to collect them and I wouldn't mind having babies that looked similar to my children when they were babies but not to dress up and carry around. Sounds like these people have some issues they need help with.
gswprchick says: on Jan 11, 2009
I don't understand this. I agree that it is WAY creepier than the crazy cat lady
jbtmommy says: on Jan 12, 2009
Some of these babies are really sweet, but I have seen others that I am not sure what the person was thinking when they created the baby! However, reborn's can be a positive coping device as well as a way to remember how positively beautiful your own child was as a baby. Initially, I thought this was creepy too. Upon further thought, I do see the therapeutic value in creating. I watched a segment on TV about a woman who miscarried many times and found peace from creating the babies for other's to love.
Meritt says: on Jan 12, 2009
Collecting as a hobby is fine but dressing them up, cuddling them, walking them in strollers and taking them out as if it were a real child? They have some serious issues! It reminds me of the horror book/movie about the plague where all the children died and no more were born and women were dressing up kittens and pretending they were babies. Freaky.
Angelbeck80 says: on Jan 14, 2009
I use to collect angel figurines when I was a teenager. It was just cause I liked them. Thought they were beautiful. I think it's just the same for those that collect dolls.
Cassiesul84 says: on Jan 15, 2009
This is just weird...it reminds me of the stepford wives. Maybe they could call them the stepford babies!
EMELLE says: on Jan 15, 2009
While I think it's a tetch bit creepy, there is no harm in it. Hey, I put sweaters on my dogs and people think I am crazy.
ayesha16 says: on Jan 15, 2009
I think it is wierd and it might be harmful because if the women really treats it like a real baby, she would be depressed and sad, if something happened to the doll.
Kiamae says: on Jan 16, 2009
I don't have my own children as my husband and I are unable to have kids. My arms ache as well as my heart at times. I want to get one of these dolls because when I saw that this one woman holds her doll after work and it calms her, a light bulb went off for me. I realized instantly and almost envied her, that is something I need. I would like to think of myself as 75% sane. My husband and I are going through painful and stressful and very expensive fertility treatments ($14,000 a pop) right now so buying a doll isn't in our budget, however there is a part of me that thinks it would help with the stress and tension if I would be able to hold a baby doll any time I felt the stress coming on to help that stress go away. Many people use the TV or the computer or books to unwind and not feel stressed. Many people depend on drugs and alcohol so I feel that I could choose much worst ways to cope than a baby doll.
Blessingsabound says: on Jan 17, 2009
I go to church with a woman who takes 2 baby dolls around with her. She has car seats for them and takes them to various functions (like Pampered Chef or jewelry parties). I truly think it is disturbing. I understand the desire to love someone/thing, but this is just a little to weird for me.
gordon24nfn says: on Jan 17, 2009
To those who say it's weird, you are most definitely right. To those who say get a dog, or even a job in a daycare, are you nuts? I don't think I would want these people around my child in a daycare for fear they would take off with my baby and she would become a "doll" to them. There has to be something wrong with adult women and men who do this. Obviously some disorder, maybe they weren't cuddled enough as a child or something. i don't know, but geez get a life they a dolls for crying out loud!
mrsmccartney says: on Jan 18, 2009
Hm, this seems strange to me. I get some people need the company, but spending 1000 dollars on a baby doll? Really?!? And maybe this might be acceptable if you didn't take them out in public, but this just seems like a strange way to cope with not having children. Why not buy a dog?
JEM4612 says: on Jan 18, 2009
I saw the story on TV also and definitely don't get it. I agree with the others that say there are so many animals out there waiting to be adopted, why not adopt one that will actually keep you company. Creepy....
Daintry2 says: on Jan 21, 2009
I don't understand it either. It is just weird. I have to agree with all the animal comments. If you are that desperate for something to love, why not an animal from the shelter? It's just plain creepy.
tigpooh1516 says: on Jan 22, 2009
These have been around for quite some time now. I think that people who are making them and selling them(for $1,000) could possibly be taking advantage of people who may need some mental help. These people should cope with not having children in healthier ways, IMO. I have seen these babies up close and they truly give me shivers. Very real looking.
heathermama says: on Jan 22, 2009
I have children of my own. I cannot fathom not having children in my life. But I know there are women out there who cannot have children for whatever reason. I dont know what I would do if I wanted a child of my own so very badly but, again, for whatever reason I was unable. I think I would be extremely sad and distraught. But I do not think I would ever have a doll and treat it just as I would treat a real baby. Maybe I would adopt a child, or heck, even a pet. I just dont think it is healthy to play "pretend" like this as an adult. I think the dolls look amazing! And if I had thousands of dollars to spare, I might even collect them myself. But I think anyone who 'plays' with an inanimate object as if it were a living thing has some serious mental issues that need to be dealt with.
CaseyDeuce says: on Jan 22, 2009
$1000 is wayyyy too much for me to spend on a doll and I couldnt see myself playing with dolls at an older age like this. I havent heard about this before now!
savedbygracejmw says: on Jan 23, 2009
wow, please, spend the money on those who need it and volunteer at a hospital, or get foster babies to have, hold and love for the month's while they are up for adoption, or get a small dog, or something. That is just a bit too much pretending for me. :)
bongsrey says: on Jan 23, 2009
This is a weird topic because these women are one slice short of a loaf!! These are the type of women that suddenly go bonkers and either steal someone's child or kill and then still the child. That's like keeping your freeze dried pet next to you!! What happened to our nation!!
sundial says: on Jan 26, 2009
The way I look at it is, hey... if they've got the money to spend on these dolls and that's what makes them happy, well then good for them.
liltingelf says: on Jan 26, 2009
Who is taking advantage of these people! The company should be ashamed of themselves for charging sooo much money for a DOLL! I never heard of this until now, I do have a friend who could not have a baby and she does collect dolls.....I will have to ask her about this?
dmp515 says: on Jan 31, 2009
Odd, just odd that a grown woman would have/hold/treat a doll as a human being. Sure it may look like a baby but there is no warmth. If you miss holding a baby so much I am sure there are many places where you could volunteer and get your fix of holding an infant. I have seen senior citizens in longtime care facilities that have dolls but these are women who have alzheimers or dementia and have regressed and it is a comfort for them. There dolls don't cost a thousand dollars. Again----if you have that kind of money to spend----donate you money and your time somewhere that you could help with children---a daycare, hospital, etc.
megankc1000 says: on Feb 01, 2009
SORRY but I can only post 1000 characters on each post so this will be cont. on the next post!!! Hello, I joined this site just to try to give a little insight into reborn dolls... First off I am a reborn doll artist! This profession just sort of fell in my lap as I needed a home based job so I could stay at home with my now 2 yr. old heart baby. OK now to correct some of the thing that have been said in previous posts. I am the proud Mommy of two preemie princesses born at two different hospitals. They do not allow strangers to go into the nicu and hold the preemies. It doesn't matter if the parents are around or not. So this is not a valid idea for these individuals.
megankc1000 says: on Feb 01, 2009
Next, many of these dolls are worth well over $1000.00 It takes an incredible amount of time, energy, and up front resources to create these "babies". Hand rooting the hair alone takes upwards of 6 straight hours. Each baby is painted on multiple layers and then heat set between each layer. Even when the baby is painted, rooted, weighted, stuffed, and glossed there is still the mounting task of creating the ad. So worth the money YES! Just as a side note most reborns sell between $200.00 - 600.00. Now I do not know about every single person who buys a reborn but I can say that the majority of my customers are elderly. These dolls are not toys and should not be given to children. They are for adults collectors!!! Many men collect, play with, and display matchbox cars and I never hear how creepy that is...CONT. AGAIN
megankc1000 says: on Feb 01, 2009
In my opinion owning, holding, and rocking one of these babies is not detrimental but therapeutic or at least reminiscent of days of old. What is wrong with that??? I spend money on what makes me happy why should Doll lovers be any different? Motherhood is not creepy and to many reborn owners this is there only chance to have a baby of their own. I feel privileged to give someone a little piece of happiness in this world today. We should all enjoy life as much as possible even if it means Rocking your very realistic looking doll as you sit and remember long past days. This is my invitation for you to consider other possibilities than all of these women being creepy insane baby nappers... Thank You
Jen7145 says: on Feb 01, 2009
This is weird. Motherhood is not creepy because I am holding my living, breathing child. Nurturing a human who will grow up to nurture other humans. This is creepy. These women are obviously missing something in their own lives that they feel they need to replace it with a plastic interpretation of an actual child. I do not need a doll to help me remember "long days past". I have memories and photos. As for men and their matchbox cars, they are not laying in the driveway have races with the other adult men in the neighborhood. A psych eval would be a great recommendation for these women. I equate this to the guy down the street who has a blow-up doll to keep him company.
ChristinesKeepsakeBabies says: on Feb 01, 2009
CaseyDeuce says: January 22, 2009 04:01 PM $1000 is wayyyy too much for me to spend on a doll and I couldnt see myself playing with dolls at an older age like this. I havent heard about this before now! This is just one of MANY examples why most of you are either ignorant or just going along with the crowd. Just because such and such amount is way too much for one person , it does not mean its "way too much" for some one else. So not everyone is "into " doll collecting. There are SO many other things people collect and dress up for the occasion. Miniature doll houses,train sets,etc..etc.. all can be dressed up for a certain holiday or event. Just like you change your door mats or flags,or house decor . If its christmas ,of course the doll collector is gongi to DISPLAY their doll wearing that new outfit. Doesn't make him/her looney. MOST people who buy reborns will display them in their house somewhere to have ART to look at ! ..
ChristinesKeepsakeBabies says: on Feb 01, 2009
cont.... Seen a wax sculp ? They are clay sculpts made into vinyl so each ARTIST can paint them in their own unique way. Got little doggie figurines in a glass case ? Well,some people happen to have their DOLL collection. Dolls have been around a long time . Just because 1 person out of maybe a million or so is a little nutcase ,doesn't make buying or making these works of art bad . continued in next comment..As for playing with them... they are not meant meant to be "played" with Casey,do your homework. Yes,they can be handled for posing and to be held and admired. displayed in your grown childs old room as a little baby replica just as you would do with a sculpt or painting,or picutre of him/her . I have seen parents diplay cabbage patch kid dolls wearing their childs newborn outfits and resembling them,laid on their beds as DECORATION : )
ChristinesKeepsakeBabies says: on Feb 01, 2009
cont... So why not take it a step up and use a reborn,its porpose is art and realism . Don't those doll houses that fetch huge prices look so real if you didn't know they were doll houses, if you saw them in a close up picture... You get what you pay for. Im sure theres many other things I'd like to say in response but you all need to do your homework,/research correctly (the media is usually far from the truth) and get a life. I have my own children, and I also work in a daycare,and I also make reborns and I am starting to collect them because they're cute,I like dolls. Yo udont have to like dolls,but stop hating and judging. most people do NOT "play" with thewir reborns. Uh oh better not send your kid to the daycare Im at... too bad for you,because I am wonderful with children and am not crazy or would ever steal someones child...
ChristinesKeepsakeBabies says: on Feb 01, 2009
Again, TO EACH HIS OWN. I do NOT agree with "plaing" with something that is meant to be a collectable. I DO take my dolls out in public... If some one thinks I am trying to be a mom or am crazy,that's their problem..I know i am not,because I do not take them out to play with, I take them out to show the public,because many doll collectors still do not know about reborns and would like to add one to their collection,so I pass out business cards when I am aproached..I dont shuv it down anyone's throat either.. people emediately ask me for my card,because my reborns look so real and they are usually impressed and want to learn more about them.
ChristinesKeepsakeBabies says: on Feb 01, 2009
You guys are too much (eyes rolling ) .. Here is my reply to this post : bongsrey says: January 23, 2009 06:22 PM This is a weird topic because these women are one slice short of a loaf!! These are the type of women that suddenly go bonkers and either steal someone's child or kill and then still the child. That's like keeping your freeze dried pet next to you!! What happened to our nation!! I can offer plenty of references to prove I am no nutcase and that I would never steal someones child. Im done waisting my time here .... Your wrong bongsrey, there is no "type" .
nightngale says: on Feb 01, 2009
If anyone has changed their opinion, I will make you one. Just let me know. This is a beautiful creative art form. It is delightful to see them become lifelike as they are painted and their hair is applied. I believe if you seen one you would agree. I would like to add the person who said do we let the grandchildren play with them. I would say no to my grandchildren, but I always provide other dolls and toys for them to play with. I have also made them child friendly babies, which they loved.
imjust_stef says: on Feb 02, 2009
Why is there so much hate? What are these women hurting holding a doll that looks like a real baby? Geez at all the hating for crying out loud! IF they are missing something in their lives that makes them want a doll to hold THIS makes them insane in your opinion? Wow you all have a crazy opinion regarding what makes someone insane.
jcross says: on Feb 02, 2009
Good Morning All...I am J.Cross of TLC Nursery and recently heard of this site through another forum, one for Artist, and heard of the nastiness and basing that reborn collectors and artist were recieving here so I felt it necessary to come see for myself and to be honest I am very Disappointed in the HUMAN RACE!! First let me start off with a very well known quote " THOU SHALL NOT JUDGE" Look familiar, if not Go Read A Bible!!! Who are ANY of you to Judge anyone else... Cont.....
jcross says: on Feb 02, 2009
What may seem like a "crazy old lady or a Nutcase" to you may be an older woman with dementia who NEEDS the feeling of cradling a baby! I am not uneducated nor am I a nut case looking to steal someone's child , I have 2 Beautiful Daughters whom I Love and adore! I coach a LL fastpitch sofftball team and have been Volunteer of the Year for our school district 3 years so......How Weird or Crazy am I...Many parents like you all trust me with your children on a Regular basis!! I have many many parents who ask for me when signing their children up for ball each year as well as many grown children who come to me personally to take care of aging Mom or/and Dad! .......CONT
jcross says: on Feb 02, 2009
I am a compassionate and caring person and that is how and why I started reborning babies! I had a few ladies in a nursing home who's Wonderful Family Members are spending their time Posting retarded comments on Blogs like this one instead of Visiting Mom or Dad so I started making these babies for my Very Lonely Residents Not Crazy but Lonely! I am a geriatric Nurse, A Computer store Owner, I also Own and manage my Boutique, Envy as well as raise French Bulldogs so I am not looking for a child to Steal, I have my own and half the community's children 3 days a week on average. I do not NEED the money I make from my babies as I make Plenty of money with the other "Jobs" I have so....KNOW YOUR FACTS BEFORE YOU START BASHING THE ARTIST! .....CONT
jcross says: on Feb 02, 2009
Many of us ladies are AMAZING people, some of those women sent my children clothing and toys and send money and support to my Husband and I when we lost our home and businesses in 2004 due to Hurricane Charley, these women are Not hurting any of you are they??? Then Mind your Own Business!!!! Is there anyone here that doesn't have a skelton in the closet that I couldn't pick apart???? Seriously..... YYou may not agree on what I have posted and that is OK as we are all entitled to our own opinions as that is what makes us all different and unique so I am going to pass on something MaMa use to say "IF YOU DON"T HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY...THEN SHUT UP! .....NEXT
jubileej says: on Feb 02, 2009
Just wanted to add my comments. I am a preschool teacher. I love kids. I also love dolls and dollhouses. I am married but have no children of my own. This is by choice. I spend my entire day with kids and like to have peace and quiet in my home. I think it makes me a better teacher. I absolutely love reborn dolls. I have several and they are beautiful. I dress tham for holidays but I am not crazy. I also decorate my 3 dollhouses for the holidays. I have just started trying to make reborn dolls. I hope one day to be able to create dolls as beautiful as some of the artists who have posted here do. If you want to see more of these dolls search on ebay for reborn dolls.
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