Most newly separated or divorced couples with children would agree that the thought of their ex’s new girlfriend or boyfriend spending time with the kids is a terrifying thought. After all, you don’t really know this new person and up until that point many of us have made it our business to know where and with whom are kids are with on practically a minute by minute basis.
A recent Fox News report talks about Jennifer Lopez’s new beau, Casper Smart, and how Marc Anthony has demanded she stop allowing Smart to drive their twins, Max and Emme, around town.
And with Casper Smart’s past driving record, Anthony’s demands may be perfectly valid. Smart has been charged with illegal drag racing and was caught driving without a valid driver’s license on several occasions. Not exactly the kind of guy a parent might want driving around a couple of 3-year-olds.
Anthony’s demands to keep his children out of Smart’s car just highlight the fears many separated parents have about how well they know the new grown up in their kids’ lives. How far should we go to try to get to know the new girlfriend? In many situations where you and your ex are not able to put the past behind you and remain friends it may be next to impossible to get to know their new significant other. When do we decide it’s time to trust them with our kids?
Have you or a loved one ever been in the situation of trying to get to know your ex’s new significant other? How did you handle it?
This is such a sensitive issue. I had twins at 18 and their dad and i were just too young to raise them in same house etc so we became split parents. Years passed and naturally we both oved on.,my children came home telling me what their dads
wife was saying. Anyone who has been thru this knows how tricky that becomes. The two were married then. Truth is you cant be upset. If i had followed comments up with more negative it automatically throws kids inthe middle,aplace they do not belong. Yup,the wife was doing this every single time prob knowing it got to me. I am teaching my kids that being the bigger more mature person is most times the better way
Casper_28::
on Feb 08, 2012
some times you just have to agree to disagree and when there are cases where safety is involved that's when you can get the courts involved to help sort out any unresolved issues. children should never be used as pawns and be placed in the middle of a parental spat.
Casper_28::
on Feb 08, 2012
some times you just have to agree to disagree and when there are cases where safety is involved that's when you can get the courts involved to help sort out any unresolved issues. children should never be used as pawns and be placed in the middle of a parental spat.
